5 Things I Was Afraid of Before Marriage

Some single women fear marriage because of all the negative things they’ve heard about the institution.

Listening to them sometimes reminds me of my own fears from when I was single.

After observing several failed marriages and other unhappy ones, I too wondered about the possibility of a real happily ever after“.

6 things i was afraid of before marriage

Now that I am married I can assure the unmarried of these 2 things.

1. A happy marriage is a choice.

The same way you make a choice to live a happy single life is the same way you make a choice to have a happy married life.

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When You Don’t Trust Your Husband (5 Things You Can Do)

What do you do when you no longer trust your husband?

Maybe he did something that chipped (or stripped) that trust.

Maybe you are suspicious of something and you don’t know how to bring it up.

When you don't trust your husband, 5 things you can do

First let me say that I have never been in a place where I lost all trust with my husband.

I’ve had moments, especially in the early days when I wondered if he still loved me or cared for me like he did before we were married.

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Is Your Marriage Broken? 2 Ways To Fix It

Are you going through a season of brokenness in your marriage?

And by brokenness, I mean you have a situation that is beyond your control, a chronic pain you cannot fix.

Not for lack of trying. You’ve done all humanly possible but your attempts haven’t born fruit.

Is Your marriage broken? 2 ways to fix it

My husband and I experienced brokenness a few years back when marriage turned out to be a little different than we thought.

Marriage had it’s glories but we did not anticipate the dizzying dips.

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Valentines Day Gift Ideas

If you are like me (you’ve been married a few years) you probably need some inspiration when it comes gift giving.

We might be early-weds but the birthdays and holidays and anniversaries add up pretty fast and take a toll on that creativity pool!

Gift ideas for Valentines

For me, last year was that year.

I could not come up with one single creative thing to give my husband for Valentines.

Being the no-fluff person I can be sometimes, I suggested we scratch the whole Valentines “thing” from our marriage.

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Drawing Boundaries For Your Marriage

Hebrews 13:4

“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.”

Often when we read these verses we think defilement comes from the outside, and only in the form of sexual intercourse.

Flirting, putting another man ahead of your husband e.t.c can’t possibly count as defilement, we assume.

Why you need to create boundaries for your marriage - a devotional

But defilement can be internal (originating from within us) and can be other things besides actual sexual intercourse.

When it’s internal, it can manifest as withholding sex as punishment for some wrong done. Or nurturing lustful thoughts towards other men.

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My Book is Here! Blues to Bliss: Creating Your Happily-Ever-After In the Early Years

I am so excited to release my book, Blues to Bliss: Creating Your Happily-Ever-After In The Early Years today!

I have poured my heart and soul in to this book and my prayer is that it will help change the dynamics of your marriage.

Blues to Bliss book: Teaching Wives how to create intentional happily ever afters in the early years of marriage

Why the book

I was only a few months married and I was ready to quit.

Not quit my marriage but quit working on our young marriage blues – the irritating, frightful challenges and stretches of new marriage.

I thought my husband and I were the only newlyweds who couldn’t see eye to eye on everything.

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For Wives Sex Begins in the Mind

We miss the entire point of sexual intimacy in marriage when we start looking at it like a chore, completely disengaged in the mind and just another thing to cross off a long to-do list.

Sometimes, we don’t know we’ve engaged chore-mode until we hit sexual blues and start looking at the root of our issues.

For wives sex begins in the mind

God did not create sex for your husband alone. He created it for you too. You are supposed to enjoy lovemaking!

It’s not something you do for your husband; it’s something you do together and for one another.

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Listening To Your Husband Does Not Equal Agreement

I like this quote attributed to Ogden Nash:

“To keep your marriage brimming, with love in the wedding cup, whenever you’re wrong, admit it; whenever you’re right, shut up.”

Love stays fresh and exciting as we work hard at not soiling and muddying it up. Yet muddling things up is something we are all familiar with.

Listening to your husband does not equal agreement. Here's why you need to listen..

Many marriages abide in long seasons of hot fellowship because one spouse, or both couldn’t bear the thought of keeping quiet.

Take me, for example. I don’t like being misconstrued.

I like it when people know exactly what I think.

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The 12 Most Popular Marriage Posts of 2014

A happy new year everyone!

It’s my second post of 2015 and I am sharing the posts that resonated the most in 2014.

For those who are newer here, I started blogging seriously in 2012.

Since then, and particularly last year I have seen great growth.

The top 12 marriage posts of 2014

To you dear reader, thank you for reading over the year (s). Thank you for your comments, emails and feedback. I have loved hearing from you and I am blessed to know that we are bringing glory to God through our marriages and lives.

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Why You Need to Go Deeper for 2015

It’s that time of the year when we set goals and plan for the rest of the year.

For me, setting the tone for the year began a few weeks ago as I was praying over certain areas of my life.

I sensed God talking to me about things I normally don’t like to think about.

Why you need to go deeper for 2015

Areas that have got to do with why I do what I do and how my attitudes affect the outcome of my prayers and expectations.

Going Deeper

I’ve been blessed to know great people who speak into my life.

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