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4 Things I Would do Differently as a New Bride

July 16, 2017 by Ngina Otiende Filed Under: Newlywed Advice, Sex in Marriage Leave a Comment

What would you do different if you could go back to your newlywed days?

We’ve been talking newlywed experiences here at Intentional Today in preparation for the launch of my new book – The Wedding Night: Embracing Sexual Intimacy as New Bride, which releases next week on the 24th!

And I was thinking about what I would do different if I could relive my first day of marriage.

Like many newlywed couples, our first night of marriage was filled with many firsts! New beginnings have their excitements. And anxieties! READ MORE...

Wedding Night Preparation: Why The Bride Needs Your Help

July 9, 2017 by Ngina Otiende Filed Under: Becoming a Better Wife, Loving My Husband, Newlywed Advice, Sex in Marriage 5 Comments

The wedding night – every bride’s longing, yet often every bride’s cause for anxiety.

The first night of marriage can be a mixed bag of emotions for most brides. A lot of sweet expectations but also a lot of tension.

I remember the “S” talk with our mentors. It was the night of the wedding rehearsal, just one day to the wedding.

Wedding night preparation

We stood on a grassy patch, away from everybody else and our lovely mentor discussed wedding night delicates.

We tried not to shuffle. Or giggle. The talk was over in less than five minutes. READ MORE...

2 Things I Did Which Helped Me Wait Well for Marriage

July 2, 2017 by Ngina Otiende Filed Under: Single life Leave a Comment

I’ve never met a single woman who loves God who didn’t aspire to honor God with her body, mind, and emotions before marriage.

But I’ve met many who yearned to wait well, but struggled to hit the mark.

When it comes to waiting well for marriage, typically, the problem is not in wanting to, it’s in getting around to do it. Like how do you actually do life?

2 tips to help you wait well for marriage

There’s plenty to do with yourself between now and marriage.

Especially because who you are is what you bring to the marriage. Also, marriage is not the goal of life, Jesus is. READ MORE...

My Husband is Not a Spiritual Leader

June 26, 2017 by Ngina Otiende Filed Under: Becoming a Better Wife, Loving My Husband 2 Comments

What happens when a husband fails to lead his home spiritually?

What’s a wife to do?

Spiritual leadership is a direct charge to husbands from God.

My husband is not a spiritual leader

The Bible says

And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:21-24 READ MORE...

4 Marriage Myths Every Wife Should Know

June 19, 2017 by Ngina Otiende Filed Under: Becoming a Better Wife, Loving My Husband, Newlywed Advice, Sex in Marriage 1 Comment

A marriage myth is “a widely held but false belief or idea.”

As humans, we learn best through example and real-life modeling. Still, what we don’t know can have as much influence in our lives, as what we do know.

Today I want to explore four marriage untruths, what I call marriage myths. We’ll look at how they take form in a young marriage and how you as a wife can kick them out!

4 marriage myths every wife should know and kick out of her marriage!

At point or another, I once believed these tales. And even after years of marriage, I still have to be vigilant and intentional so they don’t commandeer my thoughts and marriage. READ MORE...

Of Waiting for Boaz and The Perfect Boyfriend

June 11, 2017 by Ngina Otiende Filed Under: Becoming a Better Wife, Newlywed Advice, Single life Leave a Comment

Lately, I’ve been seeing a lot of quotes written by single women about “waiting for Boaz.”

Some are witty, others so deep I’ve wondered why I wasn’t as wise when I was single?

But some posts left a little twist of discomfort, perhaps – especially – because of the large number of women clicking the “like” and “love” buttons.

Do perfect boyfriends exist? Is it okay to "settle" for the next best thing? Tips on how to find the right one, without compromising godly standards

Before we dive in: if you are an email subscriber, apologies for not posting a new article last week. I had a little glitch on my website which prevented me from uploading a new post. READ MORE...

How Humility Changed the Course of Our Marriage

May 28, 2017 by Ngina Otiende Filed Under: Becoming a Better Wife, Conflict Resolution, Loving My Husband, Newlywed Advice 2 Comments

Humility is defined as “a modest or low view of one’s own importance.”

Most wives who write to me are interested in growing a wholesome marriage. Where communication is the problem, they want to know how to break down the barriers and connect with their husbands.

I just did a survey, and a good percentage of the respondents confirmed better communication as the top need in their marriage/relationships.

Humility changed our marriage