10 Things Every Bride Should Know Before Her Wedding Night

/ December 8, 2013 / Marriage, Relationships, Values / Permalink

It was almost 7pm and my feet were tired.

The hair pins were digging into my head, my make-up was almost gone, my wedding dress was uncomfortably tight around the waist (note to bride – any snug fit around the waist will feel even tighter after a meal!).

And our best friend had driven off with our honeymoon luggage.

10 Things every bride should know before her wedding night

One of my girlfriends sought to help out. Go to her house and have a quick change of clothes.

But my husband gave me that look that I’ve come to understand to mean “That’s not a great idea”.

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Do You Have a Strange Lamp in Your Bed?

/ December 1, 2013 / Marriage, Personal Development, Success / Permalink

I’ve always had a love for books and as a teenager growing up in rural Kenya without electricity, I dreamed up a genius idea to extend my reading hours past the official “lights out” time.

The “lights” were a kerosene lamp and my parents expected it to go out shortly after bedtime.

Do you have a strange lamp in your bed? Pursuing greatness in marriage

Being the genius girl, I would slip into bed, position the burning lamp next to the pillow and pull the blankets over the lantern and my head.

I could read like that for for hours without my parents knowing the lamp was still on.

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Is there Hope After Sexual Sin? {Thoughts to Help Your Courtship & Marriage}

/ November 26, 2013 / Marriage, Single life, Success, Values / Permalink

It’s Thanksgiving week here in the US and I am looking forward to a long restful weekend.

Well, the “restful” part is really a stretch because we are also moving houses before the end of the week.

Between packing and hosting dinner on Thursday, I haven’t had much writing margin.

So I thought I could post this conversation that took place in the Comments section of the blog last week, on the post “The anatomy of sexual impurity in courtship”

But before I share the question and answer, here’s a few thoughts and some clarification on the subject of purity and marriage

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Can I Love My Husband Too Much? {Public Letter to Myself}

/ November 24, 2013 / Marriage, Relationships, Values / Permalink

I try to journal and keep a “Why I love my husband” list, which I store up on my Evernote. (you can read more on this good habit here and here)

I was making a new entry today when I glanced up the page and read something my husband shared a few weeks ago.

Can I love My Husband too much?

I laughed so hard (enough to worry the neighbors) and reached for my phone.

We back-and-forthed, my husband and I…lots of preposterous gooey stuff..before trying to get back to work.

“Is this for real?” I asked myself, a big smile plastered on my face.

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The Anatomy of Sexual Impurity in Courtship

/ November 20, 2013 / Guest Posts, Marriage, Relationships, Single life / Permalink
From Ngina: This is a guest post by Lawrence Namale, a life coach and speaker. I invited Lawrence share a follow-up post on a recent article on Purity. Lawrence likes to tell at as it is, enjoy the read! More about Lawrence at the end of the post.

 

I read a story some years back about a certain man who had a heart for lepers. He loved them so much that he went to live amongst them, ministering to them as their pastor.

That was way before the advancement we’ve seen today in medicine.

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Making Money-sense in Marriage

/ November 17, 2013 / Life, Marriage, Success / Permalink

My husband and I came into marriage with different ways of looking at money – how to spend it, when to save it and how to give it away.

Some of our differences were subtle ‘on paper’ but they would blow up big in practical application.

I am guessing it’s the same in your marriage; you have different ways of looking at finances.

Making Money-sense in Marriage

Here’s a few things that have helped us find common ground as far as making sense out of our cents is concerned.

 1. Talk about it.

It’s said that most challenges in marriage arise out of  poor communication.

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He Makes the Difference {and a Giveaway!}

/ November 13, 2013 / Life, Marriage, Success / Permalink

Lately my faith has been yo-yo-ing - going up and down concerning some dreams of mine.

I shared with our Facebook Community about it this week. I’d like to share it with you today, for someone who needs a word of encouragement.

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The last few days I’ve been wondering (okay stressing out) about my seeming “inability” to stand firm in faith over some things we are believing God for.

I have felt overcome, fearful, discouraged, hurt, terrified and loosing hope that I don’t have what it takes to be used of God..cos I am so weak in faith, so distrustful, fiery-hearted.

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21 Marriage Insights From Readers {2013}

/ November 10, 2013 / Marriage, Relationships, Single life, Success / Permalink

One thing I love about the comment section of the blog is all the great conversions that take place there.

Today I’d like highlight some of the wisdom and insights you’ve shared this year.

21 Marriage insights from Intentional Today Readers

Feel free to click through and read some of the highlighted posts & visit the Commenters pages ( they are incredible people and writers!)

Ps. Between writing a book, doing charity work, crafting posts and talks, loving on my sweet man, networking and reading other blogs, I am finding that I am not able to respond to all the comments as I used to.

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9 Scriptures to Pray Over Your Husband

/ November 3, 2013 / Marriage, Personal Development, Success / Permalink

Last week we looked at 5 ways to support and encourage our husbands through every season in marriage.

One of the ways was “falling in love with prayer”

9 Scriptures You Can pray Over Your Husband

What I didn’t mention was that as a newlywed and when we had conflict in marriage I struggled with prayer.

As a single I’d heard that after marriage “God would henceforth see both of us or none of us”

That and other unconscious beliefs – you know, the kind that only surface after marriage! – had me convinced we could not connect with God when we had unresolved issues in our marriage.

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Purity: Does it Matter Anymore?

/ October 30, 2013 / Marriage, Personal Development, Single life, Success / Permalink

Today we continue with a topic we began last week, how to simplify relationships and demystify the road to marriage.

For my newer readers; besides helping you build a strong foundation for your marriage in these early years, I am also passionate about saving marriages before they start; once in a while I’ll address some of the challenges single readers face.

Today’s post is one such.

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We hear it all the time; the world has changed, morals and societal standards are not what they used to be.

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