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My Husband is Not a Spiritual Leader

June 26, 2017 by Ngina Otiende Filed Under: Becoming a Better Wife, Loving My Husband Leave a Comment

What happens when a husband fails to lead his home spiritually?

What’s a wife to do?

Spiritual leadership is a direct charge to husbands from God.

My husband is not a spiritual leader

The Bible says

And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:21-24 READ MORE...

4 Marriage Myths Every Wife Should Know

June 19, 2017 by Ngina Otiende Filed Under: Becoming a Better Wife, Loving My Husband, Newlywed Advice, Sex in Marriage Leave a Comment

A marriage myth is “a widely held but false belief or idea.”

As humans, we learn best through example and real-life modeling. Still, what we don’t know can have as much influence in our lives, as what we do know.

Today I want to explore four marriage untruths, what I call marriage myths. We’ll look at how they take form in a young marriage and how you as a wife can kick them out!

4 marriage myths every wife should know and kick out of her marriage!

At point or another, I once believed these tales. And even after years of marriage, I still have to be vigilant and intentional so they don’t commandeer my thoughts and marriage. READ MORE...

Of Waiting for Boaz and The Perfect Boyfriend

June 11, 2017 by Ngina Otiende Filed Under: Becoming a Better Wife, Newlywed Advice, Single life Leave a Comment

Lately, I’ve been seeing a lot of quotes written by single women about “waiting for Boaz.”

Some are witty, others so deep I’ve wondered why I wasn’t as wise when I was single?

But some posts left a little twist of discomfort, perhaps – especially – because of the large number of women clicking the “like” and “love” buttons.

Do perfect boyfriends exist? Is it okay to "settle" for the next best thing? Tips on how to find the right one, without compromising godly standards

Before we dive in: if you are an email subscriber, apologies for not posting a new article last week. I had a little glitch on my website which prevented me from uploading a new post. READ MORE...

How Humility Changed the Course of Our Marriage

May 28, 2017 by Ngina Otiende Filed Under: Becoming a Better Wife, Conflict Resolution, Loving My Husband, Newlywed Advice 2 Comments

Humility is defined as “a modest or low view of one’s own importance.”

Most wives who write to me are interested in growing a wholesome marriage. Where communication is the problem, they want to know how to break down the barriers and connect with their husbands.

I just did a survey, and a good percentage of the respondents confirmed better communication as the top need in their marriage/relationships.

Humility changed our marriage

Today I want to talk about the one thing that had the greatest influence in bettering communication in my marriage. READ MORE...

Embracing My Need to Talk and Understanding His Need to Process

May 21, 2017 by Ngina Otiende Filed Under: Becoming a Better Wife, Loving My Husband, Newlywed Advice 5 Comments

Would more marriages have better communication if wives embraced not just their need to talk but also their husbands need to process?

Two weeks ago I sent out a survey to my readers, asking among other things, to share their greatest area of need in marriage/relationship.

Communication was top of the list, with 72% of the respondents citing it as a top need.

How to speak so your husband will hear you

So I thought I would run an article I wrote a few years ago, as many of you may not have read it.

Here it is READ MORE...

How Friendship and Patience Can Save a Marriage in Turmoil

May 14, 2017 by Ngina Otiende Filed Under: Becoming a Better Wife, Loving My Husband, Newlywed Advice 2 Comments

Two weeks ago I started a 2-part series for newlywed couples experiencing a bumpy start to married life.

You can read part one here -> 9 things every newlywed couple should know about mentoring.

We stared with Mentoring, and today we are going to look at Patience and Friendship and why they matter, particularly in a difficult marriage.

How can patience and being friendly influence your marriage? Here are a few tips

My husband and I had a rough beginning and looking back, these three things – mentoring, patience and friendship – changed the course of our relationship. READ MORE...

Boundaries In Marriage: 5 Guidelines For Setting Limits with a Difficult Spouse

May 7, 2017 by Ngina Otiende Filed Under: Becoming a Better Wife, Loving My Husband, Newlywed Advice, Personal Growth 2 Comments

Are boundaries in marriage a reasonable option for the suffering spouse in a difficult marriage?

I remember the day my husband-then-boyfriend announced the third person in his life. “Our relationship,” he said. “It’s like a living person, separate from you and I, who needs consistent attention.”

It was a radical revelation and I was arriving at that conclusion too, albeit more slowly. Us was a separate organism.

And much as we professed devotion to one another, it was our actions and attitudes, especially in moments of conflict that determined if us lived or died.

5 tips to creating boundaries with a difficult marriage. Because God wants your marriage to thrive READ MORE...