Creating New Habits – 6 Insights into Goal-setting

Jim Rohn said

“..don’t waste your time trying to turn ducks into eagles. Hire people who already have the motivation and drive to be eagles and then just let them soar”

I agree with Jim Rohn - motivation comes from within.

Further, I believe that people get motivated when they understand purpose, vision and goals.

I mean, if you wake up in the morning knowing why you are here on earth, having a mental picture of your future and some goals to get you there – you’ll feel pretty motivated!

 

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 Habits not goals

I will be honest – I don’t always enjoy setting goals. Sometimes I feel like goals take fun and spontaneity out of  life.

They demand discipline and focus. And tonnes of growing up.

They remove ‘other options’ – the things I’d rather stumble into, distractions that allow me to be busy but lazy.

Yep, I am like most of us – love that illusion of a free, nonchalant existence.

Towards the end of last year though, I got  my light-bulb moment when I read Jeff Goins post “Why you shouldn’t bother with making resolutions this year“.

He seemed to agree that goals and plans are basically useless. He prefers ‘resolve‘ and ‘change of habits‘ to ‘goal setting‘ and ‘making resolutions‘.

Bright guy!

As I finished the post, I realized that Jeff was in the same boat as all the real other goal setters and planners of life.

They agree that while goals are okay, they are nothing,  zero, if they are not backed up by intentionality.

Now I look at goal-setting the way Jeff does – forming new habits. Getting some resolve.

 The goal creation process

Even though some of us are allergic to the term ‘goal setting’ or ‘planning’, we still have to figure out how to get from A to point B in life, right?.

So whatever your lot (meticulous goal-setter or one that breaks out in hives at the thought), keeping the following in mind can make your plotting more successful.

1. Your goals and plans need to be in line with your purpose, your core values.

Goals should be actual steps that get you from where you are today to where you want to be – a thriving purpose-filled life. Motivation is always high for the things you love.

2. You need to fetch your goals from your head and put them where your physical eyes can see them.

Frankly, out of site gets quickly out of mind.

I stick my monthly goals on my fridge while my yearly goals hang on the walls of our study. There is something wonderful about having that plan in your face – you cannot forget it even when you want to.

3. Your plans need to cover all areas of your life.

You cannot advance in your career at the expense of family. Or change the world as your health suffers.

So have a plan for your marriage, finances, spiritual life, recreation and every area you consider important. This is what brings balance.

4. You need to hedge your goals a little bit.

Yes, that dreaded word. Deadline.

At the beginning of this year, I had a goal to move my blog from a free platform to my own website.

But I did not put a deadline to it. Without a deadline, I ambled along, ‘trusting God’ but having no real sense of urgency or commitment. I eventually succeded, but it took two more months before I accomplished it.

Deadlines make you accountable, remind you of your commitments. They edge you on. Many people break down their goals to 5 years plans, then one year, six months – down to daily tasks.

My husband is my hero – he has a 50 year plan.

Just remember to be realistic in your planning. Stretch yourself but let the goals to motivate you, not crush and discourage you.

5. Life will change – so will goals.

It’s okay to change your mind (otherwise my gender would be extinct by now).

Purpose though, does not change. Remember to be flexible, change things around if you must.

6. If you are like me, there are things you want to achieve like yesterday. However, you cannot hurry purpose.

Intentional people recognize the power of time. 90% of goal achievement is sheer persistence, keeping at it until you get results.

 

Question – Do you like setting goals or do you ‘trick’ your mind like I do? What other tips and insights can you share when it comes to setting and achieving your goals?

Please share your thoughts in Comments below.

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  • http://taunetnelel.blogspot.com/ JepB

    I love this post because you share the essential truth about goals. I read this quote recently “Goals are dreams with deadlines.” and how true that setting deadlines keeps us accountable.

    Do I like setting goals — I think the answer is it’s beginning to grow on me! I’ll take your example and hang pictures of immediate goals.

    One thing I would add over and above intentionality and persistence in goal setting, we need accountability partners or better yet a coach who will keep us on our toes. Ultimately though, the responsibility is mine to reach my goals.

    • http://intentionaltoday.com/ Ngina Otiende

      That’s a great addition JepB.

       Having another pair of eyes checking in on us can definitely keep us moving, esp when we are feeling unmotivated.

      Great thought.

      Thank you for reading and sharing.

  • http://danblackonleadership.com/ Dan Black

    This is such a quality post Ngina!!!

    I really have a hard time setting goals. It’s just a habit I need to develop more. I know the importance and power of setting and moving toward reachable goals.

    I feel just like with you and your site is the same with myself and my eBook.  I have loosely set goals for when I would like to have the book finished. I know it will get done but just don’t know when. I set a goal for having the first draft done by the 19th of this month(which is still obtainable) But still have a lot to do. We will see if I reach the goal.

    Great post.

    • http://intentionaltoday.com/ Ngina Otiende

      Thank you Dan, you are one one of the people and sites I look up to… i am encouraged by your kind words. 

      I feel you on setting goals. I try to concentrate on changing habits. When I want to attain something, i think about the new habit i need to create and cultivate in order to reach there. 

      I have a book am working on too..but i have realized that I cannot hurry up the creative process. It may end up getting out there later than I had thought. But I get satisfaction from knowing that am hacking at the smaller steps daily, am doing my part. I know i had set an outlandish goal but as i went along, i just had to get practical and real…y’know, your other responsibilities don’t vanish just cos you have an ebook to write, right? :)

      I see you getting there cos you are passionate about your message. 

      • http://danblackonleadership.com/ Dan Black

         Ngina,

        Great point about “not hurrying the creative process.” I relate with you about living life while writing a eBook. Glad we are making steps to writing a book. Looking forward to reading your book.

        Are you able to share the topic of your book? When we are getting closer to publishing our books we should talk more and help each other market it.

        • http://intentionaltoday.com/ Ngina Otiende

          Absolutely Dan, I would really like that. It will be so great. I often feel like a calf at a new gate when it comes publishing! All the help we can give each other counts and goes so far.

          I have one complete ebook and one other that am finishing up now (am on my second edit).

          The complete ebook is on singles and relationships. I have done two peer reviews on it and right now it’s with one of my mentors, just waiting for their feedback before taking the next step.

          The second ebook, the one am working on now,  is on intentional living. I feel it’s such a core message, so I’d like to get it out first.  it’s 15,000 words so far. 

          I have a goal of tying up my own edit on intentional living ebook, end july. Then I figure out the next step! (i have ideas, just not so sure :)

          Looking forward to the process and helping each other out.

          • http://danblackonleadership.com/ Dan Black

            Great topics. Looking forward to reading them. Keep up the great work!

  • http://www.brandongilliland.com/ Brandon Gilliland

    Love how your site is coming along! I really like the theme you have as well!

    I like setting goals. I like to have an ultimate goal, but focus on smaller goals that lead to it. If you have a massive goal, it is sometimes hard to achieve it if you are focused on it. This is because it can seem overwhelming.

    I choose to have an ultimate goal, but establish habits and other smaller goals that lead to it.

    Great post!

    • http://intentionaltoday.com/ Ngina Otiende

      Thank you Brandon..I’ve been tweaking the theme (color, fonts, widgets) as I go along. Not there yet :) but happy with the progress.

      I like how you work on your goals. I also like having smaller steps leading up to the bigger goal too. I find it less overwhelming.

      Ever attained your ultimate goal without sweating it (so much), cos the smaller steps made the process easy? 

      • http://www.brandongilliland.com/ Brandon Gilliland

        I have met many big goals, but the biggest one right now is to become a surgeon. That goal takes awhile, so I have to implement smaller goals that will lead to it.

        • http://intentionaltoday.com/ Ngina Otiende

          That is a big goal, Brandon! way to go.

          I know you will get there as  you apply yourself consistently over time.  

  • http://www.lincolnparks.com Lincoln Parks

    Ngina, a few months ago I did a 90 day Goal challenge and boy oh boy was it hard. It was so difficult for me to just set the goals and do what I said I was doing to do. You are so right that the power of time is critical in all success.

    • http://intentionaltoday.com/ Ngina Otiende

      Sounds like you were in deep, Lincoln! 

      How did the challenge work, you crafted goals that were achievable in 90 days? 

      I know how i get when i have deadlines. Awesome that you were able to achieve what you set out to achieve. 

      • http://www.lincolnparks.com Lincoln Parks

        Hey Ngina I did the 90 day challenge book by Seth Godin and Zig Ziglar and it laid out steps everyday to do something towards your goal. You should google the goals book by zig Ziglar and get a copy. Let me know if you do, it’s called pick Four.

        • http://intentionaltoday.com/ Ngina Otiende

          Thanks, Lincoln. It definitely sounds great, the writers are great thought-leaders of our day. Will Google and check it out.

    • http://www.brandongilliland.com/ Brandon Gilliland

      That sounds awesome!

  • http://theregoi.com/ floyd

    I struggle with balance. I’ve been setting goals my entire life, often at the expense of anyone  or anything around me. This is the first year I haven’t written my goals for the year and carried them with me everyday. I still have them, I just don’t want them to own me, I own them and God owns me. 

    This is a great post Ngina, the thing that really stuck out is the goals for all things, marriage, family, the things that should have intentional goals. Good advice. I’m listening. Thanks.

    • http://intentionaltoday.com/ Ngina Otiende

      Thank you Floyd.

      You have profound thoughts – we own goals, they don’t own us. And further God owns us. Can I tweet that? It’s a powerful way to look at goal process. 

      It’s also a blessing to be at that place of balance.

      Thank you for sharing

  • Alisonhector

    I like to set goals, but sometimes I procrastinate if the goals and dreams are big and call for a serious commitment. I like to create mini goals within the process so that I’m not ready to balk at the prospect of fulfilling the big goal.

    • http://intentionaltoday.com/ Ngina Otiende

      I hear you Alison.

      Huge goals overwhelm me too. I used to set goals (big goals) without breaking them down to smaller steps. I truly suffered! 

      Now I have smaller actionable steps, broken down to weekly and daily habits. More accountability, better progress. And less fear :) :)