Its obvious isn’t it. No one likes to be tolerated.
Sadly, knowing that doesn’t stop us from dishing tolerance, sometimes, to our husbands.
He wants sex, and you don’t feel like it. Days go by and his pursuit begins to wear down your excuse/reason. So you give in. Afterward you feel pretty good about yourself for “servicing his need.”
Until he expresses disappointment with your sex life. You can’t believe that he (once gain) failed to appreciate your giving, considering how much of a sacrifice sex is.