Are boundaries in marriage a reasonable option for the suffering spouse in a difficult marriage?
I remember the day my husband-then-boyfriend announced the third person in his life. “Our relationship,” he said. “It’s like a living person, separate from you and I, who needs consistent attention.”
It was a radical revelation and I was arriving at that conclusion too, albeit more slowly. Us was a separate organism.
And much as we professed devotion to one another, it was our actions and attitudes, especially in moments of conflict that determined if us lived or died.