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Five Marriage Misconceptions

/ December 9, 2012 / Marriage, Personal Development, Relationships, Single life / Permalink

When I was single, I didn’t know what to think about marriage sometimes.

Not that I lacked godly counsel. I had many married friends.

When I got married, I realized that society and pop culture spreads far more misconceptions and outright lies about marriage than it does truth.

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I am still learning but I’ve discovered a few giant balloons that need to be popped.

Marriage misconceptions that tick me off.

1. Allowing the man to lead is backward and dangerous.

As a single person, I had raging conflict about submission in marriage.

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Intentional Courtship

/ October 28, 2012 / Marriage, Personal Development, Relationships, Single life / Permalink

You know, am no longer sure if am a ‘process-person‘ or a ‘goals-person‘.

I used to be 100% goals-person. Easily bored with details and processes and more interested in achievement.

I guess maturity has a way of making most people ‘process-minded’. As we mature, we begin to care about how things are done, not just how quickly they are done.

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When my husband and I were courting, one of the things our mentors encouraged us to do was spend alot of time with each other (and were quick to slap on the boundaries too.. that’s a post for another day)

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Intentionally Single?

/ October 10, 2012 / Guest Posts, Personal Development, Single life / Permalink

Today am excited to be guest blogging for Single Roots, a place where singles find encouragement to live powerful lives and run with the revelation that they are more than their dating lives.

In my article, I share my past journey as an “Intentional single”

Here is an excerpt of the post but you will need to head over to the site to read the entire post

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“Intentionally single” is probably not something most singles are trying to be.

I know this because when I was single, I wasn’t trying to remain single intentionally.

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30 Signs That You Are Not Ready For Marriage

/ April 17, 2012 / Life, Personal Development, Relationships, Single life, Values / Permalink

“A person may be perfect on paper, but no one marries paper —at least no one should.” Hudson Russell Davis

When searching for a mate, most of us generally obsess over the other person’s suitability.

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So I have come up with a list of 30 things that can tell how marriage-ready you are.

Not just how ready the other person is.

Because what you bring into a relationship matters alot.

You know you are not ready for marriage when

1. You are living with your retired parents – in their house.

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6 Ways That Singleness Rocks!

/ March 21, 2012 / Life, Personal Development, Relationships, Single life, Success, Values / Permalink
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Looking back, my life really came together in my single days.



Every fiber in my being pulsated with one thing; living a meaningful life, a life of purpose, an intentional life.

Single you came, single you live.

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The Art Of Being Single On Valentines Day

/ February 14, 2012 / Life, Personal Development, Relationships, Single life, Success, Values / Permalink
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Valentines.

What a day for those who are single and looking for love!

As a single, I was not a big Valentines believer to begin with.

But with everyone else shouting about it, I eventually began to notice it too.

And as I began to “notice” the day, I too desired to be given chocolate and flowers by a someone who was aiming for my heart.

The romantic angle always made the difference.

I mean, flowers from a friend and flowers from a guy interested in me were two different things!

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Treat her like a lady & she will keep you forever

/ September 28, 2011 / Life, Marriage, Personal Development, Relationships, Single life, Values / Permalink

Well, today it’s guy talk.

And it’s about relationships.

What does it take to start and keep a flourishing relationship?

There is a lot of bad stuff directed at committed relationships in our world today. Flings are cool, hard work and commitment are pouted upon, foul selfish behaviour is cheered, rebellion and immorality are applauded.

The typical guy can sometimes get confused. Not helped by the fact that many guys have a sting in their hearts, left by a woman.

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Why “ms & mr independent” just doesn’t work.

/ September 6, 2011 / Life, Personal Development, Relationships, Single life, Values / Permalink

So you are a modern woman; great job and education, a car maybe, got your own place, all your ducks in a row.

Ms Independent precedes your name. You have taken in further – you want a Strong Independent man.

But your translation for “strong and independent” happens to be as follows; He doesn’t have to open the car door for you (the door isn’t broken neither is the car new), doesn’t have to pull up your seat in a restaurant (you aren’t weak), doesn’t have to pick the bill (you are an independent woman, silly), doesn’t have to call you up (shared equal responsibilities). And so on.

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Excuse me, am Single!

/ July 27, 2011 / Life, Personal Development, Relationships, Single life, Values / Permalink

Yeah, I know it’s been a while since I was last single.

But indulge me for a moment.

Today, I got thinking about my single days and the small gems of wisdom that kept me sane.

My single days

I wasn’t long in my single journey (and I mean the reeaaly single phase of shouldn’t-I-be-married-by-now!?) before I realized that a girl doesn’t need complications in her life.

I mean, my life was complicated already; juggling family, career, ministry, friends, hormones – that was a handful. I did not need a man to complicate it further!

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