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4 Stages of a Dream

Most people have a dream, something they long to be or accomplish.

In striving to be intentional about my dreams, I have noticed a recurring pattern;

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The place where I begin to see things as God does. It’s a place of anchoring, where I catch a glimpse of the bigger picture, the whole truth, the real “why”.

Left alone, my dreams lack depth and feel flighty. I saw a quote that sums it all.

A life without God is like a unsharpened pencil. No Point.

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He is a Brooder…so Am I (an excerpt)

This is an excerpt from a marriage book am working on, from a chapter on conflict and responsibility.

Please let me know what you think in Comments? Thank you.

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“Your similarities, not your differences will create some of your greatest marriage riots”

I remember hearing the words before I got married and thinking “Ridiculous!”

In my mind, I believed the more alike Tommy and I were, the happier we’d be!

Two weeks into marriage and in the middle of “honeymoon”, I got a little dose of truth.

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Are You A Channel or a Reservoir?

A few weeks ago, I shared about the simple life – why it why it matters and how to keep priorities.

While the intentional life embraces simplicity, it also recognizes that a light life goes hand in hand with a giving life.

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Thoughts on giving

Giving is good for our hearts

As human beings, we tend to be selfish. It takes a lot intentionality to break the tendency.

Giving exercises our generosity muscle. The more we give, the stronger we become in that area.

There are different dimensions of course. But as we empty ourselves, we create room for more.

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The Dream Marriage

When I see a couple argue and altercate in public, I think about the kind of dreams they had when they started out.

I think about the “happily-ever-after” dreams that we all have at the beginning.

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Recently, I witnessed a conflict get so out of control that the police had to come around. I marveled at how un-unique (excuse my made-up word) the couples’ situation was.

Not the escalation of the conflict itself, but the presence of conflict.

I thought how, with just the right kind of values and tools, the couple could learn how to fight for their relationship, instead of fighting each other.

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The Truth About Chasing Your Dreams

A few years ago, I was working for a good company in the city.

I had a good office in an upmarket side of town.

But work was stress full. I suffered severe panic attacks.

I was restless and wanted to chase my dreams.

Truth About Chasing Your Dreams

But I didn’t know where to begin. I felt unqualified to do anything besides what I had been doing the last seven years of my life.

But I finally gathered courage and stepped out.

Since then, I’ve learned a few truths about chasing our dreams

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Great Couples Intentionally Pursue Each Other

Intentional: Def  – Done on purpose; deliberate.(adj)

Synonyms  deliberate – willful – purposeful – intended

Every married person walks into marriage carrying a lot of expectations and dreams.

But all too soon and on top of discovering the extent of their own humanity, they also discover they married another human being.

Great Couples Pursue

As the reality calls out, the challenge lies in what we do with it, how we allow it to shape our thinking, actions and habits.

Because so often, our attitude determines the health of our marriage from that point on.

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Sometimes What We Need is Trouble..

I just finished reading a pre-release copy of Bernard Haynes book, Vision Impact coming out in Spring 2013.

(And immediately dived into Kimanzi Constables’ Are you Living or Existing book out in May 2013.)

These two books have me fired up about living a quality, purpose-filled life!

In Vision Impact, Bernard talks about the woman with the issue of blood. How she’d tried everything before she heard about Jesus.

Sometimes We Need Trouble

Sometimes we need big unending trouble

Reading about the woman got me thinking that some of us need unending trouble to spur us to live a life that matters.

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Are You Giving your Marriage the Time it Needs?

Sometimes back, I read an article by Paul Byerly on creating relaxed relationship time.

He said

“Relationships take time – but not just time, they take relaxed time. You cannot set aside an hour a day to “have your relationship” and just stop everything and set it aside when that hour rolls around. You cannot cram your life so full that a five-minute delay ruins the rest of your day and expect to have the emotional rest necessary for a good marriage”

Giving your marriage the time it needs

Most marrieds work hard to strike balance between the daily demands of life and their marriage.

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Have a Dream? Roll up Your Sleeves for a Process

This past Sunday my pastor preached about the cost of following Christ.

He talked about how as Christians and in sharing the gospel, we tend to share the “good side” only. We share the benefits of salvation and skimp on the sacrifice.

Yet we never see God  ”glossing up” anything.

Dream has a process

He asks Abraham to leave his country and people “to the land I will show you“.  Christ asks the rich young ruler to sell off his wealth and then come follow him. He asked Peter to leave his business and follow Him.

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6 Ways to Navigate Financial Difficulties in Marriage

There is no shortage of difficulties in this world.

Instead of allowing challenges to drive a wedge between them, a couple can learn how to cleave.

The very nature of difficulties is to make us inward focused (selfish), instead of outward focused (nurturing and caring). So habits and actions that help a couple cleave have to be intentional.

Navigating Financial Difficulties in Marriage

My husband and I hit a huge financial low immediately after our wedding.

I quit my job (of seven years) three months before the wedding. Four months after the wedding, my husband was laid off. It took a while to get back to our feet.

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