One of my recent discoveries is a gospel song by J Moss, titled ‘I am so into you’.
I am a lover of words and his exuberant words of worship caught my heart.
The song stirred up thoughts of commitment when it comes to marriage.
Not the grandest revelation am sure but as I listened to the song I was reminded about my decisive commitment to my husband.
Once in a while, most marrieds will get blown away by some inane fact about their marriage. Nothing fireworks-ey by any chance, probably silly-sounding to an outsider.
Last week, my grand reminder was “you are wonderfully, irreparable, insanely, woefully committed to that man of yours“.
Now my husband isn’t terribly hard to love. He is a funny, wacky, hardworking, focused, protective solid mass of joy that takes his marriage as seriously as he does basketball. Okay, more than he does basketball
A life without Plan B
I tend to believe that when you walk into marriage without a plan B, you a have higher chance of sticking it out. As opposed to someone else who walks into marriage on “trial-mode”.
The same applies to purpose and dreams. When you get into that road with one thing in mind – success – you have a higher chance of finding success. Compared to someone else who is ‘just trying’.
Now, I am not saying that all failed or struggling marriages are a result of ‘trial’ mindset. Not at all.
However, we tend to live out the stories running in our heads. What we tell ourselves, the kind of attitude we keep counts when it comes to longevity.
To me the best time to make a decisive commitment is before that first step.
You don’t start getting committed a few months after the wedding but on the day you take your vows. Not that you will never encounter obstacles and other things that will try to challenge your commitment.
But at least, the obstacles should find something to contend with. Not vacant space.
Backed by God
God has a way of backing up our plans.
Marriages don’t flourish because of our decisiveness only. Dreams don’t come to pass because of decisiveness. Not at all.
Marriages and dreams flourish because God backs up your resolve.
He honors your commitment and prayer and gives you an ability to live a supernatural life. Any one who signed up to the cleaving journey that marriage is will tell you that it takes power beyond self, to have a strong flourishing relationship.
Sometimes we find ourselves stumbling into situations without having time to develop clear resolve.
It’s never too late to get decisive.
It’s never too late to ask;
Stripped of all emotion, what lies at my marriage core, dream core, life core?
Question – What are you thoughts on living decisively? Do you think being decisive improves your chances of success?
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