Did you know there’s a connection between sex and worship? Often times as wives (and husbands) we miss the deeper purpose for sex in marriage when sex becomes a chore, something to cross off on a hum drum to-do list. Today Tommy (my husband) looks at the interesting connections between sex and worship. I love his perspective and NEED the reminder! I hope you too are inspired to look sexual intimacy differently. Here’s Tommy;
There is something curiously powerful about sex. There’s a reason why even the most accomplished and affluent of men are undone by this physical and “natural” act.
Physical, yes, but with immense spiritual significance. Natural, yes, but with connection that is nothing short of the SUPERnatural.
Why does God guard sex so closely and allow it only in the boundaries of marriage? Why does the devil fight tooth and nail and marshal immense resources for sex outside marriage (and once married no sex inside of it)?
They say money makes the world go round but what of sex? This thing that drives men of means to “meaningless” flings, that causes them to destroy in 5 minutes what is built in a lifetime?
It’s so interwoven into the fabric of manhood that zeal for life is often diminished should a man become impotent. It’s a cause of great shame and feelings of unmatched inadequacy for many.
Sex in Marriage
Marriage in itself is really one of the most powerful things God created on earth.When God created the earth, He outdid Himself on a daily basis until the 6th day when all heaven must have been blown away; He created the Master’s masterpiece.
He created man. Surely there can be nothing higher than this. A creature made in His own Image, made alive by God’s own breath (Gen 2:7) but in Genesis 2:22, the LORD once again outdid Himself.
He created woman. Woman for man, and in effect, He created MARRIAGE in the most elaborate garden wedding of all time.
God hasn’t missed a wedding since. (Malachi 2:14-16). Since then, few things have drawn God’s presence quite so consistently as unity.
God’s heart is to have the earth filled with His sons and daughters and by His design, this can only be physically achieved through families, through marriage and yes, through sex.
But beyond the purpose of procreation, there is the unbelievable pleasure, and beyond that, is the incomparable unity that is achieved.
Becoming ONE-FLESH (Gen 2:24) is prescribed in the Word, only in the context of marriage. God guarantees a commanded blessing in unity (Psalm 133) and He is unreservedly moved by unity.
He is attracted by it. It would follow, then that the higher the level of Godly unity, the more God is drawn and the more His blessing is released.
What, then happens when husband and wife connect, become ONE, become joined in sex?
What happens in the spiritual realm, not only for the two but for God Himself, who delights in unity, when husband and wife in desire to pleasure each other, give of themselves in love with all they are: body, mind, emotion and spirit to achieve the highest form of human pleasure and the highest form of human unity?
Why would God put this level of unity only in marriage?
Sex and Worship
More than the “act” of repentance, the LORD desires our hearts. That is the purpose of repentance. It’s not a ritual to fulfill empty requirements.
The purpose is to have God’s people’s hearts return to God’s desired state; Communion with God. Repentance is the tool by which to return to Heart-to-heart communion with God.
Worship is the only state in which a human being can come in close communion with God. (Click to tweet)
Time and time again in the Bible, men fall on their faces in awe, at the presence of God before He speaks. Worship is intrinsic in man’s communion with God. It prepares our hearts to receive His Word, by the Spirit.
Change happens when the Word of God enters the heart that has been prepared by the Spirit of God.
But beyond individual worship is corporate worship. When two or three or more are gathered in the Lord’s Name, with one purpose, to meet with the LORD, He is drawn.
He shows up. Not only because He is attracted to worship, but also because He is attracted by unity.
Marriage mimics God’s relationship with Mankind. So much so that God calls the Church, the Bride of Christ.
Just like worship ushers in the deepest form of communion with God, so does sex, create a platform for the same between a husband and a wife.
When God desires to birth something in the spirit of man, He requires intimacy; the physical is true for man and wife. God by the Spirit of God hovered over the deep in Genesis just before He started to form the earth.
The Hebrew word used for hover is the word, RACHAPH. This same word is used to denote the manner in which a husband hovers over his wife before sex.
For this intimacy to occur, between God and man, and between man and wife, communication is required. It must be seen that the heart of each one desires to connect with the other. This is especially important for the wife and especially important for God.
Praise is crucial, for both husband and wife to feel desirable in each others eyes, and adoration for each other creates the atmosphere for the most fulfilling of sexual union.
Their spirits connect, their souls connect and what is spoken has a lasting impact on the other.
Question. Did you know there’s a connection between sex and worship? How will this revelation make a difference in your sex life?
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