My husband and I are originally from Kenya and when we moved to the States five years ago, I expected life to continue as usual.
Of course, I expected a few bumps as we adjusted to life on a new continent, but I still thought life would move on and we would navigate the changes together.
I did not understand the degree to which men are different than women.
Oh, I knew he processed differently. What I did not grasp was the level and extent of our differences.
While most women gravitate towards spirituality to try to make sense of difficulties, men will gravitate towards logic and action. The bigger the challenge, the more we hunker down.
I was desperately hoping for spiritual company, while my husband was longing for sense and logic. It was a few months before I began to get it, but over time, God taught me two things.
2 Things I Learned About Spiritual Unity
1. I am not my husband’s holy spirit.
That important fact meant I could not mold him into whatever (I thought) he should be.
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ so they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. (Mark 10:7-8)
That last verse is especially poignant: “What God has joined together.” I am not responsible for our joinedness – that is something God did when we said “I do.”