I think am not the only one who, once in a while, wishes the grass was as green on my side as it is in my neighbors’.
Yet hanging out near the fence, wistful staring into my neighbors life does not help me become more effective in my own life.
In a past post, I talked about how the choices we make matter when it comes taking charge of our lives.
(And just to clarify, when I say ” taking charge of our life” I mean doing so under God)
I strongly believe that what you choose to do/not to do today affects your life tomorrow.
Running Your Own Race
Another way to take charge of our life is through personalized living.
To be successful in any area – from marriage to career to every day life decisions – we need to run a race that is not defined by others.
I believe that success and happiness does not come from conforming but from staying true to personal convictions. It’s not that we can’t learn from others. But not at the expense of authentic living.
Unhealthy comparison is an enemy to running your own race.
Comparison is an ugly thing.
It kills dreams, frustrates passion, diverts attention and leaves you empty.
When you compare yourself to those that are ahead of you, pride rolls in – and pride can blind you to areas you could improve on.
When you compare yourself to those walking besides you, you get too busy competing to live authentically.
When you compare yourself to those that are ahead of you, you get all wound up in envy or discouragement.
I believe our world today needs passionate, authentic people. It needs folks that are walking in revelation, temperance and values.
I have discovered that modeling works best where people have refused to lend their ears. Live your life well and they’ll observe and catch something.
And even if they never do, they’ll have no excuse when the day of reckoning eventually comes.
Some of us are so deep into role-playing that we’ve forgotten what it feels like to be ourselves. Personally, I feel that trying help others from a place of falsehood just doesn’t work.
God created us to be unique individuals. Not clones or copies.
I believe that no matter how hard you work or learn, the only person you should end up being is you.
When God created you, He put in you the gifts and wherewith all to carry out His purpose.
Not ‘others’ purpose, but your purpose.
George Bernard Shaw said, “People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it”
It’s about choices. You choose your battle. And then put on the ear plugs.
Running your own race comes with a price tag.
We are constantly warring against fleshly desires and comforts. Our human nature wants it easier, faster, better, more convenient, less costly, more rewarding.
Yet authenticity, that deep life that comes from knowing who you are and living like it’s true often leads down a narrow path.
In his new book, Kingdom Journeys, Seth Barnes says
“You can’t be remade until you allow yourself to be unmade”
He goes on
” When you are truly broken, authenticity is all you have left. You’re motivated to find something solid in your interior to anchor to.”
Authentic living digs out all that can be dug out until all that remains is what God wants.