What To Do When Your Journey Isn’t clear

(From Ngina – Today am honored to host Jessica Bufkin as a guest blogger. A former junior high English teacher, Jessica Bufkin currently serves as Editor for SingleRoots, a website that encourages Christian singles to be intentional with their lives and offers many resources for to assist them, including a free eBook, When Will I Get Married?)

I sat across the table from a college senior as tears welled in her eyes.

“I graduate in May, and I have no idea what I’m supposed to do with my life.”

She proceeded to tell me about several of her friends who have clear visions for their future and how she felt like a lesser individual because she still didn’t know.

photo by moyan brenn (creative commons)

I felt such empathy for her.

I Had Been There

I had been one of those other girls—the ones who were making her feel inferior because they had their lives mapped out for the next 5-10 years, if not longer.

I left college bound for seminary in preparation for a life spent ministering to college students. That was my 3-year plan—and it lasted until I crossed the state line from Louisiana into Texas.

Living was going to be expensive, on-campus jobs didn’t fall into my lap like I’d hoped, and I had to fall back on my undergraduate degree in education—something I thought I would never use.

It all happened in the blink of an eye.

Twelve years later, I had a Masters degree from seminary that I wasn’t using, but instead I was engaged in a rewarding career as a junior high English teacher.

Soon after, I fell into a job as an editor. To say I had no idea my life would end up where it is now would be an understatement of epic proportions.

Plans vs Faith

As I looked across the table at that sweet college senior, I shared with her that culture pressures us to have a plan, but our walk with the Lord is one that requires faith.

Are there people who have seen clearly from Day 1 the steps that the Lord wants them to take? Absolutely.

But there are also a great many of us who began a journey we thought was clear, only to find out we would be given maps as we needed them.

It didn’t mean that we were wrong or out of God’s will or less holy than the others; it just meant our journey wouldn’t be so clearly cut.

It’s easier to live with intentionality when we know exactly where we’re headed and have a precise vision. However, just because we might not know the next step we are going to take does not mean we are in a holding pattern.

So how do we live intentionally, even when we’re unsure where our journey will take us?

1. Pray

It seems so simple, doesn’t it? But it’s so often the last thing we do. Over and over in Proverbs, Solomon writes about asking for and seeking out wisdom. James 1:5 tells us to do the same.

He is the Giver of all wisdom and that mainly comes through prayer.

2. Look Around

“He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?” Micah 6:8

Wherever we are planted and for whatever period of time, we should seek to view the world around us as Christ sees it and build relationships and meet needs accordingly.

3. Trust His Character

Just because we’re unsure of the direction of our lives, there’s no cause for worry or for fear. He’s still the God who is with us and won’t forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). He sees us and is for us.

If we’re walking in obedience to Him, He is using all of this for His glory and our ultimate joy in Him. He can be trusted more than any plan we’ll ever create.

Question – do you have any other tips for living intentionally when you don’t know where your journey is headed? Please share in Comments below.

*Photo by Moyan Brenn (creative commons)

  • http://www.beyondthesinnersprayer.wordpress.com/ Barb

    I have to say I’m a bad planner – I tend to just let life happen to me. This sometimes keeps me from doing all God wants me to do, and I’m working on that. But I would think being an all-about-the-plan planner could also keep me from doing all God wants me to do.

    The more I make life about God, the more He works on my weaknesses such as non-planning. The more I make life about God, the more I’m willing to change my plans whenever necessary. And the more I make life about God, the less I care about whatever else happens in life – because if life is about Him, any type of life is good.

    • http://www.singleroots.com/ Jessica Bufkin

      Great thoughts, Barb. Thanks for sharing them!

  • http://twitter.com/fashionatalie Natalie

    Great post! Just what has been on my heart lately, and I needed the extra encouragement.

    • http://www.singleroots.com/ Jessica Bufkin

      I’m glad it was encouraging to you; thanks for commenting and encouraging me, Natalie!

  • http://josephiregbu.com/ Joseph Iregbu

    It’s a powerful message here. Intentionality requires stepping into the unknown detail but having the big picture in mind. Abraham didn’t know where exactly God was calling him to but he knew on thing: God called. And he obeyed.

    • http://www.singleroots.com/ Jessica Bufkin

      “Abraham didn’t know where exactly God was calling him to but he knew on thing: God called. And he obeyed.” Amen, Joseph!

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  • floyd

    Great post. Not a single one of us can see the future, much less how we will feel when get there. I think to do what ever it is we’re doing with great pride and character is one of the ingredients to ensure the right path.

    • http://www.singleroots.com/ Jessica Bufkin

      “Not a single one of us can see the future, much less how we will feel when get there.”

      You’re right, Floyd. Admittedly, I may forget it momentarily, but He always brings me back to the Truth: He can be trusted above all else and He is good.

      Thanks for commenting!

  • http://danblackonleadership.com/ Dan Black

    Great post Jessica. I have found our “life plans” turn out different than what we first plan. When I talk with people who are figuring out what they want to do I focus on their purpose, passions, and talents. When I find one of those areas the others quickly come.

    • http://www.singleroots.com/ Jessica Bufkin

      Thanks, Dan!

  • http://taunetnelel.blogspot.com/ JepB

    Hi Jessica,

    For me this post is timely and a blessing. Thanks. Just found these encouraging words: “In Jesus, we are free. Free to question and free to doubt – but also free to trust and free to believe.” We could start by acknowledging that we are doubtful then seek from God’s word what He promises. Proverbs 8:9-11, 19:21 are also pointers, I am reminded that God has the best plan of all. Be blessed.

    • http://www.singleroots.com/ Jessica Bufkin

      I’ve been spending a lot of time in Proverbs lately, and I am reminded of the same thing. Thanks for sharing!

  • http://jonstolpe.com/ Jon Stolpe

    I’m so thankful for this post today. Thank you. I needed the reminder.

    • http://www.singleroots.com/ Jessica Bufkin

      Oh, I’m so glad to hear it, Jon! Thanks for commenting!

      • http://jonstolpe.com/ Jon Stolpe

        My blog post from today will give you a little glimpse into why your post was so timely. Thanks again.

        http://www.jonstolpe.com/2012/10/25/finite-disappointment-infinite-hope/

        • http://intentionaltoday.com/ Ngina Otiende

          That is a great post Jon. I believe God is already ahead of you and everything, making a way. Thanks so much for sharing

          • http://jonstolpe.com/ Jon Stolpe

            You were right. God is definitely making a way. The woman in my story has started coming to our church, to our small group, and to a Foundations class at our church. Her house situation is still unresolved, but God is obviously working in her life.