A while back, a couple of marriage bloggers peeled back the curtains on their lives and shared some of their personal struggles and shortcomings in ministry and life.
Sometimes we think people who champion something might “have it together” more than we do.
But that’s always inaccurate as we all have the same struggles and challenges.
Today I’d like to join up (albeit belatedly) and share some of my joys and challenges
(most of it isn’t news really anyway since I already share a lot here!)
11 confessions of a marriage and growth blogging wife.
1. I am no grammar teacher
I think you might have figured that already!
English is not my first (or second) language and as far as writing is concerned, I aim for communication; as long as we understand each other, I am happy!
2. Blogging is not so easy
It can be mind-numbing, heart-consuming, finger-cracking.
It takes a lot of thought, reflection, research, sacrifice, time and grace.
I have days when I write a post and feel like it’s the last post I’ll ever write!
But I keep on, because I am on assignment and I love encouraging others.
3. My time is not limitless.
Just because I work from home, I sometimes fall into this illusion that my time is limitless.
So I take on multiple tasks and dreams and little projects.
And beat myself up when I don’t complete them as fast as I’d intended.
So am coming to peace with the fact that my book might not be done in the next few months.
I am finally okay with the fact that I can’t network with everyone.
I have 24 hours (like everyone else) and I have to be a good steward of those hours.
4. Writing for different cultures isn’t easy
My subscriber base (and reader base) used to be 99% Kenyan.
It’s now 68% North American.
We all have the same issues but the way we communicate and articulate these issues changes from culture to culture.
It’s been exhilarating, often challenging, learning how different cultures process different things.
5. My courtship was not perfect.
I have many single readers and sometimes when I talk about my courtship or the mentoring we received, they might take that to mean we had a perfect friendship and courtship!
We didn’t. And we were heartbroken when we made mistakes and floundered around.
In hindsight am so glad we didn’t have a perfect courtship!
Because marriage isn’t perfect too and it would have been quite the rude awakening if the halos around our heads had not been knocked off earlier.
6. I love marriage
My husband is my best friend.
I miss him when he walks out of the door in the morning. I think about him during the day and can’t wait to have him home in the evening.
I’ve purposed to keep our “honeymoon” for life (especially after a challenging first two years of marriage!)
An intentional mindset is not something everyone wants to cultivate but lets be honest; we tend to reap what we actively pursue and believe for.
So I’d decided to pursue a glorious time with my honey!
7. I don’t have a perfect marriage.
My husband and I love each other to bits. But we also aggravate each other to little itty bits.
We are opposites in terms of personality (but with same values and dreams).
He’s a man, I am a woman.
He’s a city boy, I am country born and bred.
He’s easy, am not.
Like every couple, we have pebbles that try to rock our marriage boat.
We are glad for God who’s always in the boat with us!
8. I don’t have kids
I get bothered when friends (close and long-lost) open the conversation with “When are you going to have kids?”
It sometimes reminds me of that dreadful question in singlehood “So when are you getting married?”
Clearly these questions never end! (So cheer up, single friend *smile*).
9. I miss home
This week, I received some photos from home and my heart dropped to my chest when I saw a teenage boy hanging off my teenage niece.
But the shock cleared (only to be replaced by another kind of shock) when I realized “the boy” was none other than my not-so-little-anymore-nephew, her brother.
Two years are a life-time for teenage growth spurts.
I miss home.
10. I am nothing without Jesus
I am the last person I’d choose to help others. I am painfully aware of my weaknesses and failures.
I am amazed that God would use my words to touch and encourage someone else.
Without Him I am nothing. He is my everything.
11. I have a passion for Africa
My husband and I are passionate about changing lives in Africa through knowledge, enterprise, ideas and resources.
We desire to grow people’s dreams, meet needs and connect these dreams and needs to resources.
We are are actively pursuing this dream.
(Would you please pray for us? Pray for God’s direction, connections and favor as we seek partnerships and funding for projects in Kenya)
Question – What challenges do you encounter as you work towards your dream? For bloggers, what “confession” can you share today? Lets connect in Comments!