My husband and I celebrated four years of marriage last week!
Tommy and I met at a church leadership class in 2005.
He was picking up Bibles and books from the pews, and I was trying not to stare.
Three years later, he stood at the end of the altar on a sunny Saturday morning, silently praying I would be able to walk down the aisle (cos I had contracted chicken pox three days to the wedding!)
Now four years into the marriage, I am (sometimes) amazed to wake up and find a man in my bed!
But more amazing has been the bliss of sharing 48 months of my life with my best friend and cheerleader.
Along the way and in no particular order I have learned some random (and not so random) truths about marriage.
1. Becoming one in marriage is a process, not an event
2. Love is spelled c.o.m.m.i.t.m.e.n.t.
4. Sticking to God’s definition of marriage is an excellent idea.
5. Marriage is a perfect cure for love-at-first & other infatuations.
6. The marriage union can get better with age
7. Swallowing foolish talk will not give you a bad stomach.
8. Never underestimate the power (and innocence) of pre-marital class.
9. Post-marital sessions (a.k.a having a mentor couple) are a life-saver.
11. Great athletes make great marriages – people who’s hearts and lives can bend at odd angles and directions.
12. It’s possible to grow into roles you would never have imagined pre-wedding.
13. Wives like to talk
14. Women don’t always make sense to their husbands – and they are not okay with that (and that’s why they speak more)
15. Husbands can multitask – they can push a shopping cart and play on the phone at the same time.
16. Husbands don’t always appreciate company when hanging out in their ‘man-cave’. I think for wives, it’s the equivalent of having him at an all-girls-evening.
17. God does not give us what we deserve.
18. Sometimes God will give us what we ask for even if it’s not the best thing for us.
19. Mentoring is God’s idea of adult-parenting.
20. At the time of the wedding, the couple will think they know each other perfectly and are a gift to the each other. A few months (or days) later, they believe they married an absolute nutty stranger. Years along, they can’t believe they managed to snag each other, seeing how crazy they are.
21. Husbands and wives would love to figure out each other once and for all.
22. A good husband is a gift from God. A good wife is a favor from God.
23. Long courtship or short courtship? You can’t go wrong by staying in the middle.
24. Husbands like to feel safe in a relationship..something that wives need to catch up on more.
25. A couple will not die from living the unusual life.
26. Marriage is between one man, one woman, and their God. Others can offer insight, but that’s as far as it should go.
27. Opposites attract before marriage..it takes work to keep them attracting after marriage
28. ‘Like’ is a powerful word in marriage – it’s powerful to be able to say “I still like this person” in the middle of ‘love’ drought.
29. Marriage is God’s idea of helping us become more like Him.
30. I love to talk about marriage and relationships (aka this post is my opinion and I am sticking to it 🙂 )
31. Four years of marriage have taught me way more than 30 things.
Question – What’s your experience, what can you add to the list? Please share in Comments
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