How can a couple keep a healthy marriage while they pursue a dream?
Living a purpose-filled life is a passion of mine and today I am blessed to host Zechariah Newman to share his journey!
Chasing dreams and goals will either strengthen your marriage…or tear it apart.
Pursuing dreams takes a lot of time and energy and when we don’t make intentional efforts to stay united, we’ll diverge to separate paths.
For a long time I chased my own dream and did not involve my wife. All I thought about was what I wanted to do and how I was going to do it. It was all about my dream.
Not our dream.
One day as I was reading my Bible and God spoke to me and said “You’re selfish”
It was the word I needed to hear.
4 ways to keep your marriage strong as you pursue your dream
If you are wondering how to chase a dream and keep a healthy marriage at the same time, I’d like share with you my top 4 tips for chasing a dream and keeping a marriage together;
1. God first.
In keeping a healthy marriage, God comes before my wife.
When I seek Him first and ask what He would have me do with my life, life is much smoother.
It’s the only way to chase a dream in a healthy way really – keeping God first.
Since I changed the way I approach dream chasing, the love I show my wife is limitless!
Because I seek the will of God and God will never ask me to put work responsibilities over the relationship I have with my wife.
2. Accept push-back.
One of the ways to unify in your dream is to talk about it.
If your spouse challenges your idea, it does not mean he or she doesn’t believe in you. (Click to tweet)
Let me repeat that for the dreamers out there.
Your spouse can have a differing opinion but still be supportive of the overall dream.
Our detailed plans and dreams need to be challenged.
Push back will help us see and work out potential problems we wouldn’t be able to see by ourselves.
And it’s a blessing to be “helped” by the very person who loves us and wants the best for us.
3. Cast a vision.
You need to explain the why behind the dream.
Too often I get excited about something and fail to tell my wife the why behind it all.
And so it ends up looking like;
“I am going to write, coach and speak full time. So I am going to wake up at five every morning. And I’ll be tired a lot!”
“I feel God laying it on my heart to restore more people. This is how we can do it and can you imagine the fun adventure and freedom we can have together.”
Casting vision is key!
4. Shut up.
This one is hard for me.
Once I started to dream and talk about the dream with my wife, I could not shut up about it.
So we were either struggling with not talking about the dream or not being able to keep quiet about the dream.
While it’s important to dream and cast vision, learn when enough is enough.
Give your spouse permission to help you and tell you when you are allowing the dream to take over your lives.
When we take our vows on our wedding day, the bible says we become one.
This oneness however, does not just happen on this day alone and you never have to think about it again.
Oneness is something you continually cultivate through intentional actions and efforts in marriage.
So purpose to choose unity really early in marriage.
Use the early years of marriage to establish the principle of dreaming together and the rest of your life will flourish.
Question – How do you dream together with your spouse? How do you stay involved in each others dreams, supporting, encouraging and cheering each other on? Please share in comments below.
More about Author: Zechariah Newman is a Figaro’s Pizza franchisee, writer, and speaker. He writes and speaks on finding your calling and restoring significance to your life. You can follow him on Twitter or Facebook.