Most of us enter marriage with an exaggerated sense of importance.
Personally, and even though I didn’t know it at that time, I thought I was a gift to the world, saved and sanctified with a halo around my head.
Then I got married.
Oh the shake-down!
My hubby (okay, God, through my hubby) was all over my halo – Iron sharpening iron.
Now just about the only thing I am sure about is my sanctification with His blood. That’s it! 🙂
Here’s 7 ways marriage has made me a better person;
1. Made me a better negotiator.
I no longer walk off in huff when I don’t get my way. I don’t demand my way, huff and puff and hold others at ransom.
I have learned the value of being calm. I am learning how to hear with the second ear, beyond the spoken word.
I am learning the delicate art of working on heart issues, not just toddling with visible challenges.
2. Made me a little tougher.
I don’t have to win arguments. At least not all of them and not right away 🙂
I can cook and clean, generally keep a home without causing a raucous.
I am not a naturally patient person but I have grown.
3. Solidified life purpose.
Getting married to a man who dreams your dream is a God thing. Two is better than one (in God’s timing! ).
Having an encourager in this life is a gift and a miracle.
4. Taught me to shut up.
I like stating my opinions and do not like someone else to speak for me. I like my words, my expressions, my emphasis.
When I got married, I found that hubby spoke (still does) for us.
I tried to swing in my angles and clarifications once in while. But pretty soon I discovered that two talking heads is not a pretty sight.
I’ve learned to’ let it go’.
Not that I don’t speak in public (infact I married a quiet man), I do. Just that when he talks, I don’t need to add, correct, affirm, make sure am heard.
At least not right there and then in public 🙂
5. Helped me see he will never make a good girlfriend.
He is completely irrevocably wonderfully dude!
I think this revelation can save us women a lot heart trouble and angst.
(Now, how to remember that gem when we need it!)
6. Rescued me from claustrophobia.
I didn’t know that I don’t like sharing closet space. Especially with a ‘sharee’ who operates on an entirely different standard!
Marriage has been a great cure, considering that this cleaving thing goes ways beyond sharing closet space.
We share life-space.
I am always choosing between selfishness and awesomeness in marriage.
7. I am okay.
I should be growing as a person yes. But God loves and accepts me as I am.
He doesn’t want me to be my husband.
And He doesn’t want me to change my husband to be like me.
And on that note I should not play Holy Ghost jnr in our marriage.
You don’t have to be married..
I agree. You don’t have to get married to learn all this…
But some of us had to!
Question – How has your marriage (or other close relationship, if you are single) made you a better person? Please share in Comments.