Last week we looked at 5 ways to support and encourage our husbands through every season in marriage.
One of the ways was “falling in love with prayer.”
What I didn’t mention was that as a newlywed and when we had conflict in marriage I struggled with prayer.
As a single I’d heard that after marriage “God would henceforth see both of us or none of us”
That and other unconscious beliefs – you know, the kind that only surface after marriage! – had me convinced we could not connect with God when we had unresolved issues in our marriage.
(You can click here to read how I overcame)
Greatest habit you can develop
One of the greatest habits you can develop early in marriage is the habit of prayer, specifically the habit of praying for your husband.
As a Helpmate you have the ability to receive, incubate and bring forth life; and not just physical life but his dreams, hopes and aspirations.
Incubating his dreams involves creating the right environment for their growth and fruition.
Incubation is a strong stubborn unending faith that refuses to quit until that dream comes to life.
Joseph Iregbu says,
“Women have a special place in God’s heart. One gave birth to Christ, another saw him on resurrection morning. While Hannah pleaded with God every year, we didn’t hear of her husband waiting with her. He didn’t take part in the discussion with Eli. (Women) know how to get through to God.”
I believe that our “special place in God’s heart” is directly connected to our ability to connect with God in a deep way.
One of the things I like to do is pray scriptures over my husband.
I have a few favorite verses at the moment which are specific to our season. (I’d love to hear your favorite marriage verses in Comments below!)
Now it is God who makes both us and you stand firm in Christ. He anointed us, set his seal of ownership on us, and put his Spirit in our hearts as a deposit, guaranteeing what is to come. 2 Cor 1:21 – 22
This is how I pray this verse over my husband.
“Lord thank you for helping Tommy and I stand firm in Christ, in marriage, in life, in purpose… You have anointed him, put your seal of ownership on him, put your spirit in Him as a deposit. I thank you that you have guaranteed him life, purpose and progress…”
Here are a few more Scriptures – with suggested starting points for prayer – that you can use in your marriage.
You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden Mathew 5:14
Suggested starting point
“My husband is a light in his world – his work place, our marriage, our community, our church and everywhere he’s involved. He is a city that cannot be hidden, his gifting, his influence, his talents, his purpose will not be hidden or hindered. He is located and situated where You wanted him to be.”
Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path. Psalm 119:105
“Thank you Lord that my husband loves and abides in Your Word, His heart is tender and he follows your instruction.”
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2
“Thank you Lord that my husband knows your will – your good pleasing and perfect will. His knows your word, he is filled with your wisdom and knowledge. He is not conformed to the ways of this world.”
When the Lord takes pleasure in anyone’s way, he causes their enemies to make peace with them. Proverbs 16:7
“Thank you that my husband has favor with you. His ways are pleasing to you. You calm upheavals from within and without. You grant him favor and breakthrough..”
And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man. Luke 2:52
“As it was with Jesus, my husband is growing in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man..”
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3: 5-6
“Lord thank you that my husband trusts you with all his heart and does not lean on his own understanding…”
A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed. Proverbs 11:25
“Thank you for giving my husband a generous heart – he is an extravagant giver. You bless him in return, you grant him peace and blessing..”
Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well. 3 John 1:2
“Thank you for helping my husband focus on the right things. He is growing and flourishing from the inside-out . His mind, heart, soul, spirit and body are healthy..”
Your turn – What’s your favorite marriage scriptures?