About Ngina Otiende

Hi friend!

I’m Ngina (pronounced GAY-nuh) and I am a certified coach, author and blogger.

In this site, I help women and couples nurture marriage and confidently address individual and relationship problems so they can thrive. 

Through my bookscoaching, free marriage library, and articles on this site, I help women and couples establish their marriage on a junk-free foundation and be empowered to make decisions that are Christ-centered and spouse-honoring.

I believe God wants you to thrive. And that “thriving” might look different depending on the dynamics of your relationship.

About Ngina and Tommy Marriage Ministry

Our Story

Thirteen years ago, my husband and I waddled into marriage, fresh-off Singles Highway. We were filled with grand ideas and bucket-loads of expectations.

Most of which were great. Unfortunately, we were a mess. We loved each other but we were immature and proud.

For a long time, we enabled unhealthy behavior. We were passive-aggressive with each other. We expected instant results for ingrained individual (non-toxic) habits. Our communication broke down so often we wondered if we made a mistake getting married.

Eventually, we figured out that a great marriage is made up of two healthy individuals. So over the years, we began to get healthy by allowing God to transform us, through boundaries, accountability and taking personal responsibility.

The Shift

Back when my marriage was a bustling construction zone, I learned to focus on the one person I could control. Myself. My husband needed to grow too but I discovered I couldn’t change him. So I learned to hold my space and keep my spouse accountable.

And because accountability, boundaries, and personal growth worked for our relationship, for years, my approach was to help wives in those areas too.

What I didn’t realize was that women married to chronically problematic men would read my words and double down, working on themselves as if they were the problem.

And so in 2022, I made a shift which I outline in this blog post Why I’ve Deleted My Books, Courses, and Over 200 Blog Posts

I am now pro-HEALTHY-marriage, not just pro-marriage. In this site, we talk about healthy marriages and we also call out unhealthy dynamics. We discuss erroneous teachings that elevate marriage above God’s children and how we can do better.

I typically share fresh insights once a month on the blog.

I share weekly bite-size thoughts and tips with my email subscribers so make sure to sign up for the emails and freebies!

You’ll find me on Facebook @intentionaltoday (daily) and Instagram @NginaOtiende (daily-ish) sharing about unhealthy marriage dynamics, how we can do better and how to actually create a marriage that honors both God and spouse (as that’s how God intended it!)

Helpful Websites and Pages For Toxic, Abusive or Difficult Marriages

If you suspect your spouse is toxic or abusive or chronically problematic, if they are engaged in unrepentant sin (repentance comes with fruit!) please get to a safe place and talked to a licensed counselor who is trained in relationship abuse and trauma. Please talk to someone safe. God loves you. You are valuable. Here are a few resources and websites to check out.

2022 Update: My books, courses and coaching are currently being revised and updated and are not available for purchase.

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Marriage coaching with Ngina Otiende - helping wives problem-solve and nurture marriage so they can thrive.

Are you wrestling with feelings of overwhelm in marriage? Wanting to overcome relationship obstacles so you can enjoy marriage again? Do you want to restore the fun and romance in your marriage? I can walk with you through my one-on-one Marriage Coaching For Wives program. Click here to learn more.

Check out my Books & Courses

Courses

Do you want deeper connection and intimacy with your husband? Maybe you are frustrated because you can’t talk about problems without triggers and escalations. Or perhaps you have a fun and healthy marriage but you want clarity and confidence to help you address every-day marriage issues.

How to Navigate Conflict in Marriage is a conflict resolution course for wives who are interested in healthy communication, who understand that healthy communication takes two and who desire to learn their part of that process.

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Books:

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  • Blues to Bliss: Creating Your Happily Ever After In The Early Years. You don’t have to argue and stress through the early years of marriage. You (yes, you!) can change the dynamics of your marriage so you can enjoy marriage as God intended. The book is available as Amazon I Nook I PDF 
Blues to Bliss
  • The Wedding Night: Embracing Sexual Intimacy as a New Bride is a no-fluff down-to-earth guide to help the newlywed wife and engaged woman become sexually confident in marriage. Buy the book Amazon I Nook I PDF 

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What I believe

I believe God created marriages to thrive. For a husband and wife to make intentional choices that align to His Word and intention, so they can thrive as He intended.

I believe in one perfect God who exists as a three-in-one Being ; God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit.

I believe the Bible is God’s perfect Word – divinely inspired, without error and unable to fail.

I believe in Jesus Christ as the eternal Son of God and Savior of man kind. He was born physically of a virgin birth and He lived a sinless life on earth.

He was crucified and died on a cross, was buried, and then rose again on the third day according to Scriptures and now lives at the right hand God as our great High Priest.

I believe God created mankind for fellowship with Him but sin, which entered the world through disobedience, separates us from enjoying this relationship.

But through Jesus Christ, all men and women now have access to the Father when they repent and believe in Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior.

I believe the Holy Spirit is a divine Person, sent to guide, indwell and empower the believer, and to convince the world of sin, of righteousness and of judgment.

Thank you for visiting!

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Disclaimer:

Ngina Otiende is a certified marriage coach, author and blogger. She is not a licensed therapist. She provides no diagnosis, therapy, counseling, treatment or mental care services. No promises regarding the outcome of life or relationships is given or implied. All decisions belong to the reader. If expert and licensed assistance is required, the services of a licensed professional should be sought.

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