I was taking an evening walk the other day when I saw two people approach from the opposite direction.
Without thinking, I turned and took a different path.
Immediately I asked myself why I had deviated from my route.
I reluctantly admitted to myself that although I like people, I don’t enjoy strange circumstances. Especially when am wrapped up in my own thoughts (which is often).
This particular time, I did not want to be ‘interrupted’ by possible pleasantries, smiles or small talk.
Some of us behave the same way when it comes to Influence.
We don’t want to think about it and hope no one will be looking at us for anything. We like our own life and want to live it the way we want.
Sometimes it’s our frailty and humanity that stares into our eyes for too long. We drop our faces. And hide and avoid, even take a detour to avoid certain truths.
Influence is defined as “the capacity to have an effect on the character, development, or behavior of someone or something“.
Now I know personalities matter and am not talking about working the crowds here, or having titles or leading a group of people.
Am talking about influencing your personal sphere, your immediate circle, for good.
Like it or not, we all come from somewhere. A family, a community, a people, a workplace, a school.
And in that somewhere, someone is looking at you. Someone hears, sees and observes how you live your life.
When I was leading a cell group, I had many potential leaders come up to me and say “Please don’t give me people to lead. I am not a leader“.
And I would tell them whether they liked it or not, they were already leaders.
Somebody, somewhere was already watching how they live their life. I told them that leadership had nothing to do with titles.
Sometimes, all one needed was to take a walk (i.e live life) to garner a following.
Most Important Thing
The most important thing when it comes to influence is acknowledging that you are an influencer.
If you never come to that place, intentional living becomes just a little bit harder.
I know that we don’t live intentionally for sake of others. But yet when we acknowledge that how we live affects others, we generally try to push ourselves to live better.
My pastor says that if you want a man (or woman) to stay on their feet, put some responsibility on their shoulders.
Dan Black says “A team or organization is only as good as the leaders within it”
You were Born, Please Live
Once you accept that you are influencer and become careful about how you live your life, the next step should not be that hard.
Reaching out to others and seeking opportunities to positively influence others should become part of your life.
We can’t hide. We can’t take a different turn and hope to never ‘meet’ with people.
We were born. We influence already.
Question – Do you think we are all Influencers? What other thoughts can you add? Please share in Comments.
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