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Why “Not All Churches” is a Problematic Response to Religious and Marriage Harm
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Why “Not All Churches” is a Problematic Response to Religious and Marriage Harm

“Not all churches.” Every so often, after reading my writings about marital and religious harm, someone will decide to let everybody know that what they just read does not apply to every situation. I am okay with fine distinction. But where there’s a history of minimizing, deflecting, and blame-shifting whenever harm is called out, we…

What Does It Mean To Be Intentional In Your Marriage? (Clarity For Wives)
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What Does It Mean To Be Intentional In Your Marriage? (Clarity For Wives)

What does it mean to be intentional in your marriage? He said I was a snob. We were on our first date. Well, “two church friends chatting over tea and fries” as our missionary fundamentalist church didn’t allow dating. The friendship didn’t last, but the idea that to be clear-eyed = snobbish did. And although…

Does the Bible Tell Husbands to Submit to Their Wives? Plus an Update on Dallas Jenkins
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Does the Bible Tell Husbands to Submit to Their Wives? Plus an Update on Dallas Jenkins

Should husbands submit to their wives? I recently shared reasons why some women no longer believe in the idea of wife-only submission. Wife-only submission is a relationship dynamic where the husband does not submit to his wife but instead “takes on a leadership role” but the wife submits to the husband. The post resonated with…

Does He Know He’s Hurting Me? (Clarity for Wives)
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Does He Know He’s Hurting Me? (Clarity for Wives)

What if my husband doesn’t know he’s hurting me? “Some men grow up in dysfunction. Their inner world is so up-side down they don’t know how “healthy” looks like. What if my husband is just repeating behavior he witnessed growing up? What if he doesn’t know?” Women in hurting marriages sometimes struggle with these questions….

15 Reasons Why Women Stop Believing in Wife-Only Submission
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15 Reasons Why Women Stop Believing in Wife-Only Submission

Recently, on Facebook, I shared my experience with wife-only submission and why my husband and I changed our minds. I used to believe in women-only submission, and I thought it was a universal Christian practice that women submit to their husbands. In our marriage, though, my husband and I practiced partnership. While chatting/supporting other couples,…