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How “Do Not Judge” Is Misused in Marriage 

 Many Christian women have  been taught that addressing harmful behavior or putting some expectations around change is “being judgmental.” Because, after all, God says not to judge, right? But what if that’s not what the “do not judge” verse actually means? In my book, The Newlyweds: Pursuing Mutuality, Health, and Happiness in Marriage, I take…

Bible reading isn't enough for a healthy marriage
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Why Bible Reading and Church Attendance Aren’t Enough for a Healthy Marriage

Does prayer, reading your Bible and attending church guarantee a good marriage? Many Christians believe it does. A few weeks ago, I made a post about why Christians stay in bad marriages longer than they should and someone left a comment, saying we should put God first, read the Bible, learn how Biblical marriage works…

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Why Falling Out of Love Isn’t the Real Reason for Life-Saving Divorce

Is falling out of love the reason Christians seek divorce? According to a well-known Christian marriage author, a loss of feelings is the primary reason married Christians pursue divorce. His name is Willard F. Harley and I’m reading his book, “His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage” ahead of a podcast with Sheila Gregoire…

Why divorce isn't the problem
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Why Divorce Isn’t the Problem Christians Have Made It Out to Be

Is divorce truly a significant issue, or are Christians missing the point? Many Christians feel that society is too lenient when it comes to divorce. It’s common to see warnings like “God hates divorce,” “Divorce is not the solution to your problems,” “Divorce is the easy way out,” and “People need to take their vows…