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Do Pastors Ask Women to Be Saviors and Mothers to Their Husbands?
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Do Pastors Ask Women to Be Saviors and Mothers to Their Husbands?

A few days ago, I shared these words on Instagram: “Lord, you are all the Divine parent my spouse needs” is a marriage prayer to be normalized. Culture and Christianity often ask women to be moms and saviors of their husbands. “Cover” aka mop up after immaturity. Absorb and persevere through impossible dysfunctional ways of…

Dear Church, She Wasn’t Averse to Regular Marriage Conflict
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Dear Church, She Wasn’t Averse to Regular Marriage Conflict

Spouses in destructive marriages are often accused of having an aversion to marriage conflict. They are told to develop relationship muscles to help them address and solve relationship problems. tw: betrayal “Everyone says something they don’t mean. Everyone forgets sometimes. Come on, he’s begging for forgiveness” is said to the wife, who confesses she no…

Are We Shaming Abuse Victims By Discussing Future Growth Areas?
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Are We Shaming Abuse Victims By Discussing Future Growth Areas?

Are we victim blaming when we discuss post trauma growth? Since I changed my writing focus, I have been honored to connect with leaders, coaches, and individuals in the domestic violence awareness and clarity space. Many of these individuals are affected by domestic violence in one form or another. They are all passionate about raising…