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Why Women Don’t Know If Their Marriages Are Harmful
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Why Women Don’t Know If Their Marriages Are Harmful

Many women in unsafe marriages don’t know their marriages are draining the life out of them. And one of the reasons they don’t know their marriages are killing them is because, in the Christian world, most (if not all) problems in marriage are presented as “normal marriage issues everyone goes through.” Even when a plain-to-see…

What To Do When The Good News To The Abused and Betrayed Doesn’t Feel Like Good News To You
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What To Do When The Good News To The Abused and Betrayed Doesn’t Feel Like Good News To You

“Don’t forget your roots.” I used to get these reminders earlier in the year when I changed my writing focus. Some parts of my audience used to “regular marriage teachings” felt like I had pulled the rug from under their feet when I began discussing abuse in marriage. And over the last several months, I’ve come…

12 Reasons Why “Don’t Give Up on Your Marriage” Is Directed at the Suffering Spouse
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12 Reasons Why “Don’t Give Up on Your Marriage” Is Directed at the Suffering Spouse

“Don’t give up on your marriage” is a favored line from people who love the marriage institution. Indeed, there’s nothing wrong with loving marriage: the problem is when the marriage relationship is elevated above the individuals. It’s when we focus on helping all marriages succeed without acknowledging that some relationships are harmful and meant to…

Of “Testimonies”, Bewildering Hallelujahs and the Christian Reluctance to Sit with Hard Stories
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Of “Testimonies”, Bewildering Hallelujahs and the Christian Reluctance to Sit with Hard Stories

Christian going through hard times, have you shared your hard story with a fellow Christian, only to receive an enthusiastic “But look at your testimony! God made it all work out, didn’t He?” fireworks bonanza? Have you experienced one of those dizzying moments of someone being swept up by your complex story, and you watch…