I am pretty sure wives will read the title of this post and think “I know a thing or two about that!” 🙂
Once in a while, I’ll receive an email from a wife seeking tips on how to nurture marriage while hubby is on the road for work or business.
If you had asked me a few years ago how to thrive when one spouse travels for work I’d have given you a pat (to say the least) answer “Just make sure y’all stick together. Don’t take jobs where one of you has to travel!”
Ouch. Funny how God likes to organize… READ MORE
Last weekend, my husband and I drove through a part of Baltimore we haven’t been to in a while.
You probably know of the unrest and riots that brought Baltimore city to its knees a couple of months ago.
Unfortunately, this image of a city on fire persists in many peoples minds.
But Baltimore is not on fire. And last Saturday we witnessed a few changes that stirred more hope in our hearts.
It’s not normal to drive… READ MORE
Marriage issues are tough already but it’s easier to work on them when there’s willingness and goodwill from both spouses.
But what happens when one spouse is unwilling to put in any effort whatsoever? What happens when he is the problem but won’t admit it? (even blames you for it?)
That’s what I want to look at today. Because emails have trickled into my inbox from wives who are tired, discouraged… READ MORE
My dad passed away suddenly a few months before my husband and I started courting. Twelve months later, I walked down the aisle and became Mrs Otiende.
I was well prepared for marriage by my mentors, as well as any single girl can be prepared anyway.
But I did know how much my life before marriage, specifically my upbringing, would affect my life after marriage. Because as far as I was concerned, I had dealt with the issues… READ MORE
“You are saying I have peeled bananas the “wrong” way my entire life?”
He nods his head “Yup”
“But I grew up on a farm, we planted bananas. You grew up in the city, you can’t possibly know which side is up or down!”
My husband is not convinced my farm girl background makes any difference.
He thinks I don’t know how to peel a banana. I start from the bottom instead of the top.
But I know he peels the wrong way!… READ MORE
Are all “unhealthy marriages” truly unhealthy?
Our first and second year of marriage were challenging.
We were not doing well in our communication and that spilled to other areas. But by God’s grace, we kept growing and learning.
I once read an article on priorities where the Author listed a couple of things she doesn’t do because of her priorities. Bath her three kids every day…or every other day, cloth diaper, keep a phone, serve fancy meals.
The post encouraged me because I was juggling so many things at that time. Chief among them, trying to figure out life after moving 8,000 miles from home.
I thought about the young and not so … READ MORE
My dad was a tough disciplinarian and growing up, I learned to obey without question.
But I happened to have his strong personality, so mostly I would follow on the outside while resisting on the inside.
While learning to obey my parents was good and necessary, I unfortunately carried that tendency into adulthood – I stuffed things down and obeyed blindly when it came to authority figures.
Instead of talking and… READ MORE
Sometimes my husband will do something nice and after I’ll catch myself thinking “I wish he’d do that more often.”
I don’t plan on being ungrateful, but that’s the problem right there.
I don’t plan. I expect continued gratitude to flow automatically.
But the human heart is interesting.
When we don’t plan, we don’t do. When we are not intentional about gratitude,… READ MORE