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Last week, someone tagged me under a “Desiring God” Facebook post. Desiring God is a ministry founded by John Piper, who, among other things, advocates for a strict form of complementarianism. The post where I was tagged read in part “God calls men to love and lead their wives according to his good design. But…
Are gender roles in marriage okay if both partners are growth-oriented and genuinely kind-hearted? Whenever I talk about “female submission” and “male leadership,” someone will respond with a variation of why gender roles are good for healthy marriages. Gender roles or “biblical manhood and womanhood” is a belief that sees men as the God-ordained leaders…
“Marriage is not supposed to make you happy; it’s a ministry” is a message that can lead to terrible outcomes for women. This week, a reader sent me a video clip of someone being interviewed on national TV.* In the video, she argues that marriage is not intended to make us happy because it’s a…
We know we don’t want the bad marriage stuff, but what does a good marriage actually look like? Not everyone who reads my blog is married or wants to get married. I also know many are dealing with very difficult marriage situations. Others, like myself, are fortunate to be married to kind-hearted, growth-oriented spouses and…
Meet Julie. Julie is a well-rounded person. She’s strong (in that non-assuming way) and confident. She can tune into the needs of her relationship while still being in touch with her own needs and feelings. She has a deep laugh and an easy demeanor. When her friends want to cover over, her family hosts within their…
“How is marriage?” After a few months of being married, I found this question was as common as my morning cup of tea. I now know what folks wanted to hear: that marriage is fun and exciting and that I was on the upswing every single day. Unfortunately, while marriage was sweet and exciting, it…