Marriage

Are Men Designed to Obsess About Sex? (The Problem with Kevin Leman’s Sheet Music)
| |

Are Men Designed to Obsess About Sex? (The Problem with Kevin Leman’s Sheet Music)

Are men designed to obsess about sex? This week, I came across a post on Sheila Gregoire’s Facebook page where she was “fixing” a quote by popular marriage author Kevin Leman. The quote is from Leman’s book Sheet Music, where he writes, “Let’s talk about making Mr. Happy smile. Mr. Happy likes to be kissed.”…

are men and women more different than alike in relationship
| |

Are Men and Women More Different Than Alike in Relationships? Exploring Evangelical Teachings

Are men and women more different than alike in relationships? Popular evangelical teachings often portray them as two distinct species. But what does the research say? Sometimes back, one of my readers tagged me under a Facebook post discussing “love” and “submission.” I’ve written quite a bit on those two subjects on this blog. In…

Is it Nagging or Just Boundaries? Supporting Healthy Connection in Marriage
| |

Is it Nagging or Just Boundaries? Supporting Healthy Connection in Marriage

A few months ago, someone shared one of my old quotes on social media. The quote is from a few years ago when I used to write general marriage advice geared towards helping women address conflict and improve communication in marriage. But I’ve since changed how I write about marriage (here’s a post with more…

partner says they'll change for you
| |

When a Spouse Says They’ll Change For You (Remember This)

If a partner says they will change specifically for you, run. Or at least, don’t believe them. Watch. Wait. But don’t be taken. People who promise to change for reasons outside of themselves are not reliable sources of information. (Whether they realize it or not.) Lasting change is not something we do solely for others….

Is wife only submission part of God's unknown
| |

Is Wife-only Submission God’s Unknown Will? 

Is wife-only submission a part of God’s unknown?  Some people believe it is. A while back, a reader left a comment under a blog post, saying that “husband leadership” and wife-only submission are part of God’s “upside-down Kingdom.”1  Sometimes, Christians use expressions like “God’s upside-down Kingdom” or “God’s mysterious ways” to explain, define and even…