Many of you who read this blog want to accomplish great things both inside and outside your homes.
For example some of you long to create intentional happily-ever-afters, not just for your own enjoyment, but maybe for the sake of another wife or marriage that might need some cheer and strengthening.
Lately, God has been reminding me that in order to be a blessing to another wife or be impactful in any way, I need to allow Him to create my own story in even deeper ways.
I need to allow Him to teach me afresh and actively live what He’s teaching me.
Longing for many things
Last year, I was busy asking God to open certain doors in my life.
And He opened some amazing doors. But not all the doors I wanted.
I wanted to start speaking to crowds. I wanted our dream of changing lives in Africa to blow through the roof.
I wanted to publish and create tools.
I wanted, wanted, wanted and drove myself crazy wanting because I wasn’t getting a lot.. or quickly.
But as I’ve been waiting and listening to God afresh, I am being reminded that keeping God first in my life includes being happy and comfortable with both His will and His pace.
Allowing Him to shape us
Last week I shared something from Beth Moore’s book “The beloved Disciple”.
“The primary way (God) equips us for our tasks is to reveal Himself to us. If you want to serve Christ, don’t just get busy.”
“Get to know Him intimately and you’ll have a head on collision with your calling. God wants to give us a spirit of wisdom and revelation so we’ll know what to do with what He reveals.”
If you and I want God to use us in any way, we must joyfully embrace and live out the life He’s ordained for us.
Because it’s within living that life, within living out His story that we’ll have encouragement to share with others.
Yet so often, in our haste to achieve and accomplish, we try to give what we haven’t cultivated and export what we haven’t become.
In other words we run ahead of God and hope He will grant us success.
Maybe right now you are struggling, you want to accomplish much but it looks like some doors are shut and you can’t make a dent.
Can I just suggest that maybe – just maybe – the doors are shut for a reason?
It’s not the devil trying to steal your promise.
Or your husband being difficult.
Or your pastor being unsupportive.
Maybe God has a better way of doing things.
May be He’s purposely shut that door to grant you an opportunity to fall in love with Him and His way all over again.
Think outside the box
I don’t know the details of your life, so I am not trying to judge/make any conclusion here or even tell you what to do.
I am just trying to spur some outside-the-box thinking.
Not because you are wrong, but because sometimes we just need to pause and reflect.
We need to be prodded and reminded about the most important thing; His will, His way, His purpose.
Sadly we can’t pause and reflect on these things when everything is running smoothly in our lives.
We pause and examine our hearts when we hit a crisis and crossroad and shut doors and challenges.
That’s when our world quietens down enough for God to remind us to quit wanting things simply because others have them or it feels like a great idea.
As women after God’s own heart, we must become the originals He created us to be.
We must learn to joyfully embrace the process of creation – because without the process, we don’t have a story to encourage another.
Without the often painful process of molding we don’t have the character to sustain the next level
A few things to reminder/take away
- Sometimes it’s not the devil trying to hinder our progress, it’s just that God has a better idea.
- We must learn to chase God harder than we chase our dreams and aspirations.
- You can’t genuinely help another person in her journey if you haven’t allowed God to help you in your own.
Ps. You might be reading this and thinking “I have no desire to be in “ministry” or to be used by God in “big ways”.
May I propose that your marriage and your home is your ministry and that God has a high purpose for that ministry.
Francis Chan says “Our lives should be more than just focusing on our marriage but on focusing our marriage toward what God’s mission is for us as a couple”
Pause & Reflect – Is God currently redirecting your steps? How are you responding to His redirection? Is your life and marriage quiet enough for His still small voice to be heard? How can you better respond to His specific instructions right now?
What if what we want is not what God wants by Mary Demuth.
Do you struggle to wait on God? by Ngina Otiende