Today I’d like to welcome guest poster Nungari Mugi to share her journey as a single lady longing for marriage and how she’s finally found peace.
I hope it encourages you, dear single reader and hope it informs and stirs those of us who are married.
Today is my birthday and I realized that I have come a long way in my single-hood.
There was a time when my birthdays were spent in tears, because I was still not paired up.
Before you reprimand me for this, let me say that I am in my late 30’s, all my friends and even younger sisters are married with children.
I just wanted to be normal.
There are several challenges that come with being a senior single. I pray that none of you will have to go through unless it is the will of God for you:
1. You feel left out and forgotten by God.
There you are all by yourself and everyone around you is getting married.
You go to wedding after wedding until the weddings end and you start going to baby christenings.
You pray to God about marriage and like the woman who begged for her son’s healing He says not a word to you.
2. Everyone begins to give you suggestions.
Lose weight, dress differently, do your hair like this, wear some make up, on and on it goes.
If you follow all this advice you end up losing your own identity and becoming someone you don’t even recognize.
3. Some say you are intimidating to men.
You live in a nice apartment and you drive a nice car…
What does a man have to offer you?
What’s a girl supposed to do?
4. There comes a time when your whole being wants to be a mother.
You want to carry a baby in your womb, but you need to have sex for that and you can’t do that because you are saved.
Talk about fighting this body! The need for a baby can become ridiculous, believe me!
People think adoption is the answer but its not.
Your body is telling you that you are of age and you need to carry a baby.
5. Then there is the ever ticking clock that says you are getting older.
And the scientific evidence that says it becomes increasingly difficult to conceive after the age of 35.
Wait a minute. I haven’t even been located yet, leave alone married and trying to conceive!
Good thing Jesus can override that proverbial clock!
6. The ones who ridicule you, laugh at you or overlook you..
It’s amazing how being a senior single makes you lose status in our society.
Thank God for rest!
I can honestly now say that I am in a place of rest. I’m not trying to be anyone other than myself.
No losing weight, or doing my hair differently or having baby cravings!
I am finally at peace.
Even though every now and then I wonder if God remembers me, I know for sure that I am in the palm of his hand.
That comforts me as I continue to wait on the Lord for a husband.
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Question – How was your journey to marriage? Did you “wait” (or are you waiting) and what did you learn in your waiting? Share in the comments and encourage someone.