How do you find hope when your world falls apart?
A few weeks ago, Rebekah Hallberg reached out and told me about her (and co-author, Jen) new book. I love her blog and the encouragement she shares with wives, so I was excited to read it.
I got the book and read it. In one sitting while waiting for a delayed flight.
The book, Hope the Hurting Wife is one of the best resources I’ve read for the wife in a hurting marriage. Are you hurting? Broken? Lost all hope? Or simply want to know how to hold on when the “for worse” part of marriage comes?
Here’s Jen, co-author of Hope for The Hurting Wife to share a bit of her story.
I’ll never forget the night I laid in bed sobbing silently while my new husband snored peacefully beside.
The poor man had no idea how upset I was and I falsely believed that somehow, he should just know. That was the first of many times that married life failed to live up to my high expectations.
Nearly two decades later, I can look back at that moment and laugh, but at the time, I felt so much pain, sorrow, and rejection. The intimacy of our marriage relationship gave my husband the ability to wound me like no one ever had before.
Fellow wives, when we experience the “for worse” of our marriage vows, we have a choice to make. We can either throw our hands up in frustration and claim, “This isn’t what I signed up for.”
Or we can cling to the only hope that truly lasts – hope in Christ and His power to redeem, His promise to complete the work He has begun in us.
My husband and I survived the dark and desperate seasons in our marriage with a relationship that is stronger and more authentic than it was way back when we were newlyweds.
But it’s not because we were one of the “lucky” couples. It’s not because our love was just so strong. It’s not because we never considered divorce. We survived by God’s grace alone!
If you find yourself disappointed in married life or even desperate for change, you’ll find a comfort in our book, Hope for the Hurting Wife.
The personal stories and practical, biblical advice it contains come from two women who, just like you, had the highest of hopes for healthy marriage.
But no marriage is perfect, and so many women today are seeking somewhere and someone to turn to when marriage gets hard. Seek the right kind of hope – the only kind that lasts!
Here’s Rebekah, co-author of Hope for The Hurting Wife to share a bit of her story.
I looked at him and wondered how we grew so far apart. He looked familiar, he sounded familiar, but I hardly knew him.
The choices he made broke my heart; they rocked me to my core. They were not choices that honored God or our family. Yet, I saw his world caving in, I saw the fear in his eyes, and I hurt for him.
I watched as the world walked out, as people deemed this “too big” to fix. This was truly the “or for worse” of my marriage vows, and while I meant my vows, I didn’t expect to find myself facing the worst.
(Who does, really?) How do you survive when you’ve been dragged into the “for worse” of marriage?
My chapters in Hope for the Hurting Wife come from the darkest days of my life. Setting pen to paper (or finger to keyboard) to write each story took days because they were written during the struggle for my marriage.
They were written in the depths of the darkest parts of my marriage, when I did not know if my marriage would be restored, or even if it could be restored.
If that was the end of my story, my life would be utterly hopeless.
But that’s not the end!
How do you survive when you’ve been dragged into the “for worse” of marriage? By the grace and mercy of the Lord.
God does not waste the battles we face. He does not forsake us in the darkness. Rather, He meets us in our mess and offers us His mercy and grace. He does not leave us hopeless.
Friends, my God is a God of redemption! Today my marriage is restored, and God is redeeming our story in order that we can encourage others.
Hope for the Hurting Wife is our opportunity to encourage you in your struggling marriage.
CLICK HERE to Purchase a Copy of Hope for The Hurting Wife: 30 Days of Practical Encouragement for Your Marriage.
Grown missionary kid, mother of four, and wife to a church planter, Jen Stults is a work-in-progress woman who seeks to find confidence in Christ alone. She writes about the struggle to embrace everyday grace in the areas of faith, marriage, and parenting at her blog, Being Confident of This.
God gave Rebekah a front row seat to the work of His redemption in her marriage. Rebekah co-leads an online community for struggling wives around the world and shares encouragement for those who face the daunting task of surviving the “for worse” of marriage. You can learn more about her ministry to wives at her blog, Sharing Redemption’s Stories.