15 Inexpensive Ways to Bless Your Husband Today

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Is it possible to bless your husband on a budget?

Recently, I finished reading Kristen Welch’s book “Rhinestone Jesus” in which she shares her story of unpinned faith; moving from safe faith to radical obedience.

Kristen shares openly about the deep struggles in her marriage. Towards the end of the book, she talks about the incredible value of service and these little lines jumped at me;

“Serve your spouse in unexpected ways. Enjoy surprising him.”

It cut deep. Because while I like being a blessing to my husband, sometimes I am lazy. And excuse-laden.

15 free and almost free ways to bless your husband today - without splurging or blowing your budget! Because gift giving doesn't have to be expensive!

Like finances for example. Sometimes I tell myself that if we had more money, I would plan better surprises, give better gifts and therefore be a better blessing!

But you know what, money can be the prop for a lazy soul! It’s easy to buy a card and take someone out for dinner. Much harder to come up something creative when finances are tight.

I am glad that real gifts come from the heart, not necessarily the wallet. I am not saying splurging is bad but you don’t need money to be a blessing.

Actually, the absence of money forces us to be creative and intentional, therefore adding more meaning to the gift.

This post started with me asking myself how I can better serve (and enjoy surprising) my husband inexpensively.

Because there are so many ways to surprise and serve our husbands without making a dent on our finances. It is possible to be a blessing within regular budget. You just have to be creative!

Here are a few things I came up with: how to bless your husband on a budget!

I hope you are inspired to in-work them in your marriage; please add your tips in the Comments on the blog!

1. Speak kindly to him

Husbands rate kindness and thoughtfulness as a top precious gift. At least mine does. And my guess is yours does too.

You can gift kindness every day, and it will cost you zero. (Maybe it will require you to let go of ego, pride, laziness sometimes, but these you need to let go anyway)

2. Look good for him

Now, we all have different versions of “looking fabulous”, but we can all agree that a taking shower/bath, brushing your teeth, fixing your hair and dabbing some deodorant covers about the basics.

(Confession: I just realized I haven’t done any of these things and it is way past midday and my husband is working from home today. Yikes, excuse me while I follow my own advice.)

Now, where were we?

Yes, my good and your good: they might be different.

My husband likes it when I am comfortable, so shorts and pants are my things. Yours might prefer dresses, a little more makeup, straightened hair.

Just make the effort.

Instead of making excuses for frumpiness ( “I was dressy all week, and I deserve a break during the weekends”), consider all the effort you put towards looking good for the outside world.

Then apply the same attitude towards your home image.

And for y’all that are really struggling right now, I am not suggesting impossible standards. Simply be intentional about how you look; the fit, color, style, the age of that t-shirt e.t.c.

If you have to change your clothes, head to toe, because someone knocked on your front door, then you really need to rethink your home appearance!

3. Cook his favorite meals.

Shop with your husband in mind. I cook Kenyan meals for the most part; that is code for simplicity. Compared to American cooking anyway. We love our simple foods, but my husband also appreciates variety, flavor, and meat!

Since I love colorful vegetables and whole foods, I am learning how to add small twists and adjustments to our regular ol’ meals.

Just yesterday, he had the largest serving of quinoa only because I put it inside a roll – chicken, vegetables, and quinoa. #forthewin

I have also recently discovered another simple way to add flavor to meals – sauces. This must be Kitchen101 to the domestic divas here; please bear with us late bloomers.

I just found this recipe for creamy lime cilantro sauce and it’s the current hit in my house!

4. Ask him what he likes, then do it.

From the bedroom, to how you dress to how he wants the house to look.

If he’s okay with everything, study him and then do more of what he likes.

5. Look for ways to remind him he’s on your mind.

When you are out shopping for the week, pick up something he likes. Skip/substitute an item on your shopping list if you have to.

When you go out with your friends, save him half of your desert, like a slice of cake. Tell him something that happened that reminded you of him (be honest of course)

6. Learn about his work

Engage him on his favorite topics. Listen and ask questions.

7. Make suggestions for connection

The keyword is suggest. When you say “Honey, let us do XYZ to improve our marriage” and a guy might hear “Here’s how you are failing as a husband.”

But “I came across a fun article. It has about 365 questions we can ask each other every day for a full year. Wanna try? I can the send the link to your email to check it out” and he might be a little open, even curious.

Be creative in nurturing connection.

Get the 365 questions by Lori Byerly here

15 free and almost free ways to bless your husband today - without splurging or blowing your budget! Because gift giving doesn't have to be expensive!

8. Go the DIY route

You don’t need to be into crafts to create something amazing. Trust me. Simply scroll through Pinterest for ideas! Search for “DIY gifts for husband”and then tweak whatever you find to fit your budget.

If you don’t have a budget, use the items lying around in the house – old cards, boxes, scissors, glue, markers, buttons..anything. Be creative!

9. Be an easy to please wife

Read about it here Am I a wife who is easy to please? Take the Test!

10. Give him your full attention

Don’t be off doing your own thing. Stop what you are doing and give him your full attention.

11. Give him grace when he least expects it

When he had finished washing their feet, he put on his clothes and returned to his place. “Do you understand what I have done for you?” he asked them.  “You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am.  Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you.” John 13: 12 -15

12. Do his duties and don’t mention it.

Wash/fuel the car, excuse him from grocery shopping, allow him to sleep in

13. Plan a cheap (or free) date night

I have a whole board on Pinterest for ideas!

14. Forego a favorite thing

Save up the money and buy him a gift.

15 Pray for him continually

Prayer is powerful. (See 2 Powerful Keys to Help You Pray for Your Husband More Often) One of the ways I pray for my husband is by making declarations and confessions over his life.

My foundation is Hebrews 11:1 which says faith is the substance of things hope for, the evidence of things not seen. And Matthew 21:18 – 22 where Jesus cursed the fig tree. “And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith.”

Here’s how that might look like

  • My husband is bold and courageous Proverbs 28:1
  • He pursues God with his whole heart Deuteronomy 4:29
  • He dreams audacious dreams Psalm 25:14
  • He’s led of the Spirit Romans 8:14
  • He puts his hand on the plow (whatever he’s set his hand to do) and does not look back Luke 9:62
  • He seeks God’s will, turns away from everything that might lead him astray Psalms 1:1-3
  • He is firmly rooted in Christ (identity) Colossians 2:7
  • His wife (that’s me) is his greatest cheerleader Genesis 2:24
  • She calls out the great in him and prays for his weaknesses Colossians 3:12, 13
  • She trusts in God’s plan for His life Jeremiah 29:11

Bonus Tips on how to bless your husband!

17. Create a “Why I love My Husband List”

Tell yourself a fabulous story when you create a “Why I Love My Husband” list.

Learn all about it here, including how I created mine.

18. Educate yourself

Did you know one of the ways you become a better wife is through learning? It’s no-brainer really. But you’ll be surprised by the number of wives who invest in everything but their personal growth and development.

The truth is that you can’t export who you are not; you can’t be a blessing to your husband if you don’t know who you are and what is expected of you in the marriage.

Learn who you are and what you should cultivate and then bring to a marriage relationship. Click here to learn more.

19. Stir up your libido

Be intentional about understanding how your libido works so intimacy can be fun again.

I believe we wives need to become students of own body. Because unless we know who we are and what we need, we won’t be able to teach our husbands what we want. And sex will feel blah!

Since we are are always learning what our husbands want, we need to change things up and learn what works for us! Become active participants in the intimacy process instead of hoping our husbands will fill the gaps for us. (affiliate link ahead)

Boost Your Libido online course is a down to earth resource for the wife who wants to enjoy intimacy.

The author, author and speaker, Sheila Gregoire is open about her own struggles, which makes you feel heard and understood.

It’s an enjoyable journey, filled with practical assignments that can help you see immediate results.

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Now, let’s talk! How do you serve and bless your husband without splurging or bursting your budget? Share in Comments!

*Ps. My husband and I just celebrated our wedding anniversary last week! He planned a surprise 2 night getaway on the beach! Here are a few pics!

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Not sure if they are visible but there are birds perched on every single one of those poles. Twas so cute!
Not sure you can see them but there are birds perched on every single one of those poles. So cute!

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2 Comments

  1. I love this post! It’s so easy to forget to bless your husband. We’re so focused on other people in our lives. We want to do things for coworkers. We are cheerful around our boss. And we especially dress nice for them. But then we let it slack all to often at home. I need to remember that blessing my husband doesn’t have to come at a high cost. It’s just a little intentionality and care on my part.

    1. You’ve nailed it Charlene..we really go all out for others “out there”. But get lazy when it comes to the most important person in our lives! Like you’ve said, all it takes is care and a little intentionality. I need this reminder too!

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