Tommy and I sat on a long dark seat, trying to chat away our tiredness.
A man typed away quietly at the corner of the room.
Moments later, he called out our names and after some finger printing, signatures and stamps, he smiled up at us, holding up papers and documents.
“Welcome to the United States of America!”
‘Thank you very much,” we smiled back and picked our passports and paperwork.
Twenty eight long hours of travel with a ten hour layover in London was finally over. Our journey from Kenya to USA was complete.
Some background information; I did not know that planning for a relocation would be work. I had already set “Relocation” as one of my goals for 2011, so as far as mental ticking went, I believed it would be a breeze.
Number one, doing this journey as an individual is one thing, doing it with someone is another thing all together. I am intuitive by nature; my husband is a logical thinker. When it came to long range planning and practical day to day preparation, our thoughts and opinions were often galaxies apart. We spent long hours squinting through our telescopes, scouting, waiting for the other to agree with our point of view, back down, board the mothership and come to our own galaxy. We did finally pull off a successful ‘relocation”; but we know beyond a shadow of doubt that our success was not because of our great intuitive nature/logical thinking. But because we finally pulled together as a team.
Another lesson; it’s one thing to identify and agree on a goal. But quite another to agree on how to bring that goal to pass. So when it comes to working as a team, it serves well to agree on the how, not just the what. And that said, opportunities to exercise patience, restraint, understanding will be plenty down the road. Teamwork calls for a lot of maturity and compromise; sometimes you will not be able to agree on some things at all. You need to constantly remind yourself what the goal is. Sometimes agree to disagree. If the other person’s “how’ will still get you to the “what’, albeit not your way, just swallow your pride, deal with it and just move on.
Sometimes we go through difficult circumstances not so we can come out with a 10-point sermon and a song at the end of it. Some things will just plain not make sense. Me thinks that just coming out of a tough situation, bruised but alive is sometimes all the lesson needed. You made it, you didn’t die. Point noted.
Any season or adjustment we face in life usually comes with a life span. It ends. Yes, it doesn’t feel like it will ever end sometimes, but it does. So the most important question to ask ourselves in the middle of it all is this; how will I go through this? (since clearly it will not go away). You still get to wake up every morning and choose your attitude. Daily. I know we’d rather hibernate somewhere and wake up when it’s all over. But life is not like that. Never gives us an opportunity to really choose some things. But it can never take away our power to choose. We have a daily opportunity to choose how to live life.
So how will you live your life today? Joyful? Angry? Hopeful? Depressed? It’s always a matter of choice.
In the coming posts, I will share some of my experiences here – the discoveries, the adjustments, the growth, the lessons learnt.
Keep on smiling!