“My husband is not a spiritual leader” What’s a wife to do?
Spiritual leadership is a direct charge to husbands from God.
The Bible says
And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:21-24
Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them” Colossians 3:18-19).
God wants husbands to love their wives and set the tone and pace in marriage. But husbands are human..sometimes they fail.
Also, as a wife, you may have a different understanding of what spiritual leadership looks like in marriage.
When a wife feels like her husband has dropped the leadership ball, she can do these two things.
1. Step back and study her husband. Figure out if he’s indeed leading but in his own way. Make sure to read this post When you want to submit but husband doesn’t lead
2. If he has indeed dropped the ball, she needs to fan her own relationship with God. Not nag him and get upset at God. Just because your beloved is not relating with God or taking charge in marriage does not mean your own relationship with God should likewise die.
This week and instead of my usual written blog post, I have a new video up on my You-Tube channel! I am fleshing what to do when you feel like your husband is not a spiritual leader.
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Remember to leave me a comment on the video, let me know what you think? How can a wife fan her own relationship with God when her husband isn’t leading in marriage? Also, remember to subscribe to my YouTube channel and share the video!
Blog posts mentioned in the video
3 reasons your husband is not mushy about Jesus
Leadership and submission – when one spouse won’t do their part
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What if your husband is following doctrine that is improper. Evangelicals and charismatics that are preaching a gospel that is not true and thinks that I’m being too critical of these people and looking to find fault in them. Thinks that it’s all okay a as long as it points you to Jesus. My point being it’s a false Jesus. Their made up version. I can’t follow such teachings and have delved more into theology. My husband says that’s no good than the Pharisees and that is just religion and it kills the spirit. That I am no better than a Pharisee studying theology. What do you do then?
Patricia, we are not to follow our husbands into things that dishonor God. Check out this post for more insights!
Ps: I’ve edited out part of your comment that named specific names and ministries.
A great reminder that different Is good. Time to self check.
Praise God. Thank you for sharing Godly wisdom.
Ngina, I have to tell you how wonderful this post/video is! You’ve articulated what I’ve always felt; that my husband leads, but not in the outgoing boisterous way that I would, and that doesn’t mean that he’s still not a leader. He loves his family and loves the Lord, he just has a different way of expressing himself. I’m heading over to check out some of your other posts. This is one I’m definitely sharing!
Jen, I am glad you can relate! So important to remember that different isn’t necessarily wrong. But its certainly a journey for most wives, including myself! Thank you for reading and sharing!