By: Jimmy

Jimmy

I’m struggling on how to address the whole “porn and abuse” thing. I’m struggling with this because I know that it is a very real issue in society today. But certainly we can agree that neither Josh or any other pastor is endorsing this type of sin. It is sin.
On the other hand, many marriages — especially Christian marriages — are plagued by a lack of sexual intimacy. Young women who grew up with the beating message “sex is wrong”…and they take that right with them into marriage. Thus the joy that is reserved for and should occur within the context of marriage is lost.
I am in such a marriage. My wife does not want to appear naked in front of me (because she “was not raised that way”). She does not want to have sex too often (because there is something “…wrong with that”). She does not want to explore sexuality to find what we both may enjoy (because its “not right”). All of that baggage.
So no, we don’t want to IN ANY WAY promote young husbands viewing porn, or objectifying their brides as if they were porn stars. But seriously, we should be encouraging young women to follow their husbands lead (since men are typically more likely to initiate) when it comes to bedroom desires. Not from the perspective of an abusive or harmful relationship — rather from the perspective of two people becoming one, learning about each other both outside and inside the bedroom, and experiencing the great pleasure a husband and wife who love each other are capable of giving each other.

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