A few months ago, I connected with Jennifer White. She was about to release her book “Prayers For New Brides: Putting on God’s Armor After the Wedding Dress“, about the same time I was releasing my book.
After launching my book, Jennifer graciously sent me a copy of her book..and I have loved it!
Because it touches on 3 of my favorite things, young marriages, wives, prayer!
Biblical help for the new bride
Prayers for New Brides is a treasure trove for practical, scriptural truth on how to start marriage right.
Most brides come into marriage carrying ideas and dreams on what it takes to create a great relationship. It’s important that once married, the bride would learn to align herself with the Author of marriage, His word and His plan.
Because, God has a plan! And His plan is always bigger, always different from ours! Our happily-ever-after is not found in doing everything we want, but in faithfully following God’s already-laid-out plan for marriage. (Tweet that)
That’s what Prayers for New Brides is all about – encouraging brides to align their mind, will, emotions, beliefs to the Word of God.
Jennifer writes from experience, teaching as one who’ve been there (broken marriage, divorce, crippling mindsets). She shares about God’s redeeming grace and how you can experience it too.
One of my favorite chapters is where she talks about the enemy of marriage and how most couples/wives don’t realize that when they said “I do”, they acquired a bulls-eye on their back. The devil hates marriage because it’s God’s beautiful creation.
If we remembered that nifty truth, I think we would fuss less at our husbands! (because we see the real culprit behind the smokescreen)
Unconditional love and determined faith
“What comes to your mind when you think of God? Do you smile and relax at the thought of Him? Or do you get tense? Do you feel judged, disapproved of, disliked?” – Prayers For New Brides
For years I felt disapproved by God. I thought He loved me but I believed it was conditional; I had to earn it. When you are on performance-mode with God, you become performance-oriented in marriage too.
You give to your spouse what you think they deserve. You hold back when they are not nice. You simmer in frustration and fear and anger.
God has healed me but sometimes I pick at those scabs – I regress to old thinking patterns. It was refreshing to read this section of the book – to be reminded that God is pleased and happy with me, right where I am. Being reminded of God’s unconditional love has challenged me to be even more unconditional with my husband.
I was also challenged in the area of waiting well in faith. Often whenever we pray, we have to wait and trust God for answers. When answers take time, we can get ideas.
As wives we are to strive to live in agreement with God. This is a life lived in submission to Him. It means rejecting what we think we ‘want’ and what we “feel” when it does not agree with God. James 4:7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” – Prayers For New Brides
I don’t know what are trusting God for, but I can’t get enough of that reminder.
Favorite quotes from the book
A few of my favorite quotes from Prayers For New Brides
“Unity in marriage is very different than the dependence of a child to a parent. The union of your marriage is a choice to comingle your life goals and choices to include the needs of your spouse. The choice to think of his needs alongside of yours is a beauty treatment for the married soul.”
“I want you to begin your marriage knowing that God is your “go-to” guru for enjoying your long life together. I want you to see how marriage relates to the gospel of Jesus. I want to encourage you to let Jesus be your model for loving your husband.”
“When you’ve had the plank in your eye surgically removed in God’s operating room, (time in His word and at His feet in prayer), you will look at the splinter in your husband’s eye and feel compassion. You will know the pain of having it removed and the relief of living without it. Then you will empathize with the fear, insecurity or pain that hides behind his behavior.”
Since Jennifer sent me a print and soft copy of the book, I am giving away the print book to one Commenter!
To be entered into the draw, simply leave a comment below and share one marriage tip that has helped you the most in your relationship!
If you are a new bride or in your early years of marriage, I highly recommend this book! I’ve been reading through and after almost seven years of marriage, bawling my eyes out in some chapters as the Word hits home. If you are an older bride, you’ll love the foundational reminders.
You can buy your copy of Prayers For New Brides: Putting On God’s Armor After The Wedding Dress (paperback or eBook) here.
*To be eligible for the giveaway, you must have a North American mailing address. Entry closes Thursday 16th June, midnight (EST)* Giveaway is now closed