abuse

One Way Pastors Can Better Support Victims of Abuse
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One Way Pastors Can Better Support Victims of Abuse

Why do pastors struggle to support abuse victims? The church is supposed to be a pillar of truth and refuge for the hurting. But quite often, faith spaces are a thorn to the suffering and a comfort to perpetrators. Many churches are unsafe for those fleeing abusive relationships and environments.1 So how can pastors who…

18 Things Normal Guys Don’t Do in Marriage (And 12 Things They Pursue)
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18 Things Normal Guys Don’t Do in Marriage (And 12 Things They Pursue)

It’s a favored phrase in the relationship world. “He’s just being a guy.” You’ve probably heard of its cousin. “He’s just a normal guy with normal guy issues.” Put another way, those oppressive, harmful, unrepentant patterns of your spouse? Eh. Normal guy stuff. Lower your expectations and just let him be. It’s normal behavior from…

18 Reasons Churches Struggle To Support Abuse Victims
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18 Reasons Churches Struggle To Support Abuse Victims

Why do churches struggle to help abuse victims? I recently was chatting with a group of women in different stages of processing marital abuse. Nearly all of them reported receiving no support from their churches. It’s a story I’ve heard hundreds of times in the last couple of months (since this happened.) And today, I…

31 Signs You Might Love Marriage More Than The Welfare of The Individuals
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31 Signs You Might Love Marriage More Than The Welfare of The Individuals

Do we love marriage more than people? Sometimes the way we talk about marriage gives the impression the institution of marriage is more important than the welfare of the individuals.   Recently, I decided that I love people more than the institution of marriage and gave some leg to my beliefs. Of course, I’ve always…