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Why It Doesn’t Matter How Much Pastors Say “I’m Sorry”
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Why It Doesn’t Matter How Much Pastors Say “I’m Sorry”

It doesn’t matter how much pastors “apologize” if they don’t start with the truth. On Tuesday, Robert Morris, the senior leader of Gateway Church officially resigned. His resignation came a few days after admitting to an “inappropriate sexual behavior with a young lady” 35 years ago. But “young lady” she was not. “Inappropriate sexual behavior”…

What To Do When The Good News To The Abused and Betrayed Doesn’t Feel Like Good News To You
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What To Do When The Good News To The Abused and Betrayed Doesn’t Feel Like Good News To You

“Don’t forget your roots.” I used to get these reminders earlier in the year when I changed my writing focus. Some parts of my audience used to “regular marriage teachings” felt like I had pulled the rug from under their feet when I began discussing abuse in marriage. And over the last several months, I’ve come…

12 Reasons Why “Don’t Give Up on Your Marriage” Is Directed at the Suffering Spouse
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12 Reasons Why “Don’t Give Up on Your Marriage” Is Directed at the Suffering Spouse

“Don’t give up on your marriage” is a favored line from people who love the marriage institution. Indeed, there’s nothing wrong with loving marriage: the problem is when the marriage relationship is elevated above the individuals. It’s when we focus on helping all marriages succeed without acknowledging that some relationships are harmful and meant to…