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Christians are still asking “What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?” A few readers have pitched the question in my direction as an argument for why marriage is hard and why everyone should persevere in challenging times. Now, I have compassion for evangelical and conservative Christians who…
Are men and women more different than alike in relationships? Popular evangelical teachings often portray them as two distinct species. But what does the research say? Sometimes back, one of my readers tagged me under a Facebook post discussing “love” and “submission.” I’ve written quite a bit on those two subjects on this blog. In…
A few months ago, someone shared one of my old quotes on social media. The quote is from a few years ago when I used to write general marriage advice geared towards helping women address conflict and improve communication in marriage. But I’ve since changed how I write about marriage (here’s a post with more…
When Christians no longer go to church, are they still Christian? I don’t know when attending a church service became THE sign that one is a Christian. But here we were. Many people believe attending church is the primary indicator of one’s faith. The thinking is so strong that not being part of a church…
What do you do when your spouse is chronically irresponsible? The message from evangelical Christianity is to keep trying. In the past few years, I have read and listened to countless stories from Christian women who are married to chronically irresponsible spouses.* A common theme in their stories is the pressure from pastors, biblical counselors,…
If a partner says they will change specifically for you, run. Or at least, don’t believe them. Watch. Wait. But don’t be taken. People who promise to change for reasons outside of themselves are not reliable sources of information. (Whether they realize it or not.) Lasting change is not something we do solely for others….