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Dealing With a Chronically Irresponsible Spouse (Clarity for Wives)
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Dealing With a Chronically Irresponsible Spouse (Clarity for Wives)

What do you do when your spouse is chronically irresponsible? The message from evangelical Christianity is to keep trying. In the past few years, I have read and listened to countless stories from Christian women who are married to chronically irresponsible spouses.* A common theme in their stories is the pressure from pastors, biblical counselors,…

When You Need To Believed (Not Handed a Bible Verse)
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When You Need To Believed (Not Handed a Bible Verse)

Belief, rather than a Bible verse, is what many in high-stress and traumatic circumstances desire. When they gather up the courage to share their experiences, they are hoping for an empathetic witness. Validation. But often, they are met with anything but that. One of the main problems is that Christians were handed a belief system,…

Why It Doesn’t Matter How Much Pastors Say “I’m Sorry”
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Why It Doesn’t Matter How Much Pastors Say “I’m Sorry”

It doesn’t matter how much pastors “apologize” if they don’t start with the truth. On Tuesday, Robert Morris, the senior leader of Gateway Church officially resigned. His resignation came a few days after admitting to an “inappropriate sexual behavior with a young lady” 35 years ago. But “young lady” she was not. “Inappropriate sexual behavior”…

Should Pastors Confess Sins Publicly? Should We Forgive and Forget?
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Should Pastors Confess Sins Publicly? Should We Forgive and Forget?

Should pastors confess sins publicly? Or should we all just “forgive and forget”? Yesterday, on Facebook, I posted about the senior pastor of Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship Church in Dallas, who announced that he is stepping aside due to “sin” he committed years ago. Many people have added their thoughts in the comments—many diverse views….

How Hard is Marriage? Sanity-Saving Tips For Wives
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How Hard is Marriage? Sanity-Saving Tips For Wives

“Marriage is hard” is how some spouses avoid taking individual responsibility in marriage. When I was newly married, I thought all problems between a couple were something both people needed to work on: All issues were solvable. Even where one person was at fault, I was taught that prayer, patience, and better instruction would fix…