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Last week, someone tagged me under a “Desiring God” Facebook post. Desiring God is a ministry founded by John Piper, who, among other things, advocates for a strict form of complementarianism. The post where I was tagged read in part “God calls men to love and lead their wives according to his good design. But…
“Happiness is a choice. Just make the decision to be happy and your marriage will be the better for it.” I’ve heard countless times – from readers, books, sermons, and marriage influencers – that one of the most important decisions in marriage is the decision to be happy. The idea being that married people just…
What’s challenging about growing as a Christian is how our understanding and perception of who God is can be limited. Let me explain. We got handed a belief system. But asking questions and wrestling with those beliefs is kinda frowned upon. Unless you “wrestle” and remain in the same spot, that is. Our deeply held…
Christians are still asking “What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?” A few readers have pitched the question in my direction as an argument for why marriage is hard and why everyone should persevere in challenging times. Now, I have compassion for evangelical and conservative Christians who…
Are men and women more different than alike in relationships? Popular evangelical teachings often portray them as two distinct species. But what does the research say? Sometimes back, one of my readers tagged me under a Facebook post discussing “love” and “submission.” I’ve written quite a bit on those two subjects on this blog. In…
A few months ago, someone shared one of my old quotes on social media. The quote is from a few years ago when I used to write general marriage advice geared towards helping women address conflict and improve communication in marriage. But I’ve since changed how I write about marriage (here’s a post with more…