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I’m just wondering why some Christians spend so much time disempowering women. Why is it so important that women are small and men are big? Bookmark the thought: I’m from the Kikuyu tribe, one of the 42 main tribes of Kenya. As a tribe, we have an origin story (close to the Judeo-Christian of Adam…
A few days ago, I shared these words on Instagram: “Lord, you are all the Divine parent my spouse needs” is a marriage prayer to be normalized. Culture and Christianity often ask women to be moms and saviors of their husbands. “Cover” aka mop up after immaturity. Absorb and persevere through impossible dysfunctional ways of…
Does God hate divorce? Many Christians believe He does. They believe (or act as if) divorce is something harmed spouses came up with. They say divorce is often pursued by those who refused to persevere normal marriage issues, that it’s a path borne out of randomness and boredom. But they couldn’t be more wrong. The…
“Don’t forget your roots.” I used to get these reminders earlier in the year when I changed my writing focus. Some parts of my audience used to “regular marriage teachings” felt like I had pulled the rug from under their feet when I began discussing abuse in marriage. And over the last several months, I’ve come…
Christian going through hard times, have you shared your hard story with a fellow Christian, only to receive an enthusiastic “But look at your testimony! God made it all work out, didn’t He?” fireworks bonanza? Have you experienced one of those dizzying moments of someone being swept up by your complex story, and you watch…
The problem with a lot of Christian marriage teaching is that most Christian writers, speakers, and pastors assume both spouses want to change. They naively believe that with just the right tools, strategies, and support, all spouses can mature up. And so they spend a lot of time trying to save all marriages. But is…