marriage

How Hard is Marriage? Sanity-Saving Tips For Wives
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How Hard is Marriage? Sanity-Saving Tips For Wives

“Marriage is hard” is how some spouses avoid taking individual responsibility in marriage. When I was newly married, I thought all problems between a couple were something both people needed to work on: All issues were solvable. Even where one person was at fault, I was taught that prayer, patience, and better instruction would fix…

Why Pastors Need Accountability Too
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Why Pastors Need Accountability Too

Pastors and accountability is an uncomfortable mix for some Christians. I’ve seen people (myself included) told, “Be careful,” “Don’t be so willing to throw the first stone,” or “It’s a slippery slope,” when they address a harmful Christian teaching. It’s almost as if some Christians don’t believe church leaders are normal human beings who make…

How Do Christians Feel About Referring to God as “She”? Exploring the Controversy
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How Do Christians Feel About Referring to God as “She”? Exploring the Controversy

“How do you FEEL referring to God as “She”? I recently asked on Facebook. The prompt was an original posting by Uwem Ward of All Made Well Recovery and when resharing, I emphasized we were bringing curious awareness to our FEELINGS. The comment section exploded. One part responded to the prompt with gentle curiosity and…

Why Change Without Lasting Fruit Shouldn’t Be Acceptable in Marriage (The Truth Hurting Spouses Deserve to Know)
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Why Change Without Lasting Fruit Shouldn’t Be Acceptable in Marriage (The Truth Hurting Spouses Deserve to Know)

Last week on Facebook, I wrote about how “change” without lasting fruit isn’t really change. I suggested those impacted by hurtful behavior shouldn’t be asked to settle for “change” that is not accompanied by real-life transformation of character that shows up in daily interactions. Many evangelical and other conservative faith spaces elevate a “love” that…

One Way Pastors Can Better Support Victims of Abuse
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One Way Pastors Can Better Support Victims of Abuse

Why do pastors struggle to support abuse victims? The church is supposed to be a pillar of truth and refuge for the hurting. But quite often, faith spaces are a thorn to the suffering and a comfort to perpetrators. Many churches are unsafe for those fleeing abusive relationships and environments.1 So how can pastors who…