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Christians are still asking “What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?” A few readers have pitched the question in my direction as an argument for why marriage is hard and why everyone should persevere in challenging times. Now, I have compassion for evangelical and conservative Christians who…
Are men and women more different than alike in relationships? Popular evangelical teachings often portray them as two distinct species. But what does the research say? Sometimes back, one of my readers tagged me under a Facebook post discussing “love” and “submission.” I’ve written quite a bit on those two subjects on this blog. In…
What do you do when your spouse is chronically irresponsible? The message from evangelical Christianity is to keep trying. In the past few years, I have read and listened to countless stories from Christian women who are married to chronically irresponsible spouses.* A common theme in their stories is the pressure from pastors, biblical counselors,…
If a partner says they will change specifically for you, run. Or at least, don’t believe them. Watch. Wait. But don’t be taken. People who promise to change for reasons outside of themselves are not reliable sources of information. (Whether they realize it or not.) Lasting change is not something we do solely for others….
“Marriage is hard” is how some spouses avoid taking individual responsibility in marriage. When I was newly married, I thought all problems between a couple were something both people needed to work on: All issues were solvable. Even where one person was at fault, I was taught that prayer, patience, and better instruction would fix…
A few weeks ago, I was interviewed on a podcast where we discussed, among other things, divorce and what the Bible has to say. Bible verses like Malachi 2:16 and Matthew 19:9 have been interpreted in ways that make it difficult for people in unsafe situations to find safety and for those in healthy marriages…