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Does God Require Suffering and What That Means For Marriage
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Does God Require Suffering and What That Means For Marriage

Does God require our suffering? According to some Christians, the answer is “Yes.”  High-control, works-based Christianity says our faith is not legitimate if it’s not accompanied by struggle or drudgery.   Expressions like “the price of the anointing” “salvation is free, but the anointing is not”1 might not be familiar to all Christians, but those with evangelical/fundamentalist/conservative roots are…

15 Things We Think God is Obsessed With (But He Isn’t)
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15 Things We Think God is Obsessed With (But He Isn’t)

Some Christians, especially those of the evangelical/fundamentalist flavor (of which I was a part), believe God is obsessive. Directly taught or implied, we are taught that our connection to God is less about relationship and more about keeping to the rules, restrictions and commands of the Divine. To be clear, I don’t believe “obsessive” is…

How Do You Convince Your Loved One that Getting Away From Your Abuser was the Right Thing to Do?
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How Do You Convince Your Loved One that Getting Away From Your Abuser was the Right Thing to Do?

Someone asked “how do you convince a loved one, through Scripture, that getting away from your abuser was the right thing to do?” Quick answer. You don’t. You don’t need to convince anyone. But let’s dig deeper. Someone who doesn’t see abuse or the need for safety for the victim will not be convinced by…

When a Spouse Won’t Address Harmful Character Issues (Clarity For Wives)
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When a Spouse Won’t Address Harmful Character Issues (Clarity For Wives)

Character issues in marriage: Many women find themselves in marriages where a spouse is deeply wounding or immature, or proud but won’t address these individual character issues. Or the spouse says they are “working on it,” but the wife never really sees the long-term fruit of that work. She wants to know what’s going on,…