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“Jesus loved Judas, ate with Judas, and to follow in His footsteps means forgiving those who betray us.” We are approaching the Easter weekend this week, where forgiving and reconciling with our “Judas” will be a common theme in many Christian places of worship. I know this because I have listened to numerous Easter sermons…
Last week, someone tagged me under a “Desiring God” Facebook post. Desiring God is a ministry founded by John Piper, who, among other things, advocates for a strict form of complementarianism. The post where I was tagged read in part “God calls men to love and lead their wives according to his good design. But…
Are gender roles in marriage okay if both partners are growth-oriented and genuinely kind-hearted? Whenever I talk about “female submission” and “male leadership,” someone will respond with a variation of why gender roles are good for healthy marriages. Gender roles or “biblical manhood and womanhood” is a belief that sees men as the God-ordained leaders…
“Marriage is not supposed to make you happy; it’s a ministry” is a message that can lead to terrible outcomes for women. This week, a reader sent me a video clip of someone being interviewed on national TV.* In the video, she argues that marriage is not intended to make us happy because it’s a…
Meet Julie. Julie is a well-rounded person. She’s strong (in that non-assuming way) and confident. She can tune into the needs of her relationship while still being in touch with her own needs and feelings. She has a deep laugh and an easy demeanor. When her friends want to cover over, her family hosts within their…
Christians are still asking “What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?” A few readers have pitched the question in my direction as an argument for why marriage is hard and why everyone should persevere in challenging times. Now, I have compassion for evangelical and conservative Christians who…