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What Does It Mean To Be Intentional In Your Marriage? (Clarity For Wives)
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What Does It Mean To Be Intentional In Your Marriage? (Clarity For Wives)

What does it mean to be intentional in your marriage? He said I was a snob. We were on our first date. Well, “two church friends chatting over tea and fries” as our missionary fundamentalist church didn’t allow dating. The friendship didn’t last, but the idea that to be clear-eyed = snobbish did. And although…

15 Reasons Why Women Stop Believing in Wife-Only Submission
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15 Reasons Why Women Stop Believing in Wife-Only Submission

Recently, on Facebook, I shared my experience with wife-only submission and why my husband and I changed our minds. I used to believe in women-only submission, and I thought it was a universal Christian practice that women submit to their husbands. In our marriage, though, my husband and I practiced partnership. While chatting/supporting other couples,…

Of “Godly Suffering” and What That Means For Marriage
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Of “Godly Suffering” and What That Means For Marriage

Does God require our suffering? High-control, works-based Christianity says our faith is not legitimate if it’s not accompanied by struggle or drudgery.   Expressions like “the price of the anointing” “salvation is free, but the anointing is not”1 might not be familiar to all Christians, but those with evangelical/fundamentalist/conservative roots are super familiar.  The “God requires suffering to bring…

15 Things We Think God is Obsessed With (But He Isn’t)
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15 Things We Think God is Obsessed With (But He Isn’t)

Some Christians, especially those of the evangelical/fundamentalist flavor (of which I was a part), believe God is obsessive. Directly taught or implied, we are taught that our connection to God is less about relationship and more about keeping to the rules, restrictions and commands of the Divine. To be clear, I don’t believe “obsessive” is…