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Dealing With a Chronically Irresponsible Spouse (Clarity for Wives)
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Dealing With a Chronically Irresponsible Spouse (Clarity for Wives)

What do you do when your spouse is chronically irresponsible? The message from evangelical Christianity is to keep trying. In the past few years, I have read and listened to countless stories from Christian women who are married to chronically irresponsible spouses.* A common theme in their stories is the pressure from pastors, biblical counselors,…

When a Spouse Says They’ll Change For You (Remember This)
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When a Spouse Says They’ll Change For You (Remember This)

If a partner says they will change specifically for you, run. Or at least, don’t believe them. Watch. Wait. But don’t be taken. People who promise to change for reasons outside of themselves are not reliable sources of information. (Whether they realize it or not.) Lasting change is not something we do solely for others….

How Hard is Marriage? Sanity-Saving Tips For Wives
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How Hard is Marriage? Sanity-Saving Tips For Wives

“Marriage is hard” is how some spouses avoid taking individual responsibility in marriage. When I was newly married, I thought all problems between a couple were something both people needed to work on: All issues were solvable. Even where one person was at fault, I was taught that prayer, patience, and better instruction would fix…

God and Divorce – A Brief Exploration of Malachi 2:16 and Matthew 19:9
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God and Divorce – A Brief Exploration of Malachi 2:16 and Matthew 19:9

A few weeks ago, I was interviewed on a podcast where we discussed, among other things, divorce and what the Bible has to say. Bible verses like Malachi 2:16 and Matthew 19:9 have been interpreted in ways that make it difficult for people in unsafe situations to find safety and for those in healthy marriages…