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Have you heard the saying, “Married people give up too easily”? Or its cousin, “Married Christians just need to trust God more?” Have you noticed how this duo often appears when discussing deeply problematic marriage situations? While not every “hard marriage” has dynamics of power and control (and some people end their marriage for reasons…
Christians are still asking “What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?” A few readers have pitched the question in my direction as an argument for why marriage is hard and why everyone should persevere in challenging times. Now, I have compassion for evangelical and conservative Christians who…
“Marriage is hard” is how some spouses avoid taking individual responsibility in marriage. When I was newly married, I thought all problems between a couple were something both people needed to work on: All issues were solvable. Even where one person was at fault, I was taught that prayer, patience, and better instruction would fix…
My husband and I were recently watching a video highlighting the first all-female crew in Kenyan aviation. Many parts of the world have had their first-all-female-crew moment and it was great seeing our country in the hub. Our conversation looped around the brilliance and hard work we’d just witnessed and it wasn’t long before we…
Pastors and accountability is an uncomfortable mix for some Christians. I’ve seen people (myself included) told, “Be careful,” “Don’t be so willing to throw the first stone,” or “It’s a slippery slope,” when they address a harmful Christian teaching. It’s almost as if some Christians don’t believe church leaders are normal human beings who make…
“Let’s stop shaming single moms.” Recently, I was in a conversation about women and motherhood. We ended up talking about how more children are brought up in single-mother households vs. single-father homes and how society, in general, treats single mothers. Later, I came across an update by Abi Akinola about single moms. Abi has guest-posted…