This is a guest post by Bernard Haynes. More about Bernard at the end of this post.
“Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?” Amos 3:3
Are you married, but sometimes it feels you and your spouse are on different teams?
Does your marriage resemble a team in chaos?
Does it seems that you are spending more time fighting against one another than standing together?
Sacrificing personal glory
One of my pleasures in life is watching team sports.
It is nothing like seeing a group of individuals come together with all of their differences and nuances to work together in accomplishing a common goal.
I get an extra adrenaline rush too, witnessing individuals sacrifice their own personal glory for the sake of the team.
After getting pumped up about a sports team achieving great things from working together, I thought about how greater our marriages would be if we worked as a unified team.
The marriage team
What if we decide to put our selfish desires aside for our spouse?
What if we truly do what the Bible says and work together to become one flesh? I believe that we will represent to the world a unified team that is built to win.
As I think back, one of the major reasons that our marriage encountered so many setbacks was due to our failure to work as a team.
I had to have it my way. She had to have things her way.
So we ended up butting heads and creating a really dysfunctional team. We spent most of our time battling one another instead of working together.
We discovered quickly that a disjointed marriage cannot function the way God designed it to function.
It is impossible to become a unified team when you have two different visions. This is called division. (You can click to tweet that.)
When you have division the vision for your marriage will die. My wife and I have overcome some intense challenges.
We are working through some as I write this, but we understand that the only way our marriage will become all God designed for it to be is to work together.
Challenges will come that will attack your marriage at every angle, but you must be determined to stay in the fight.
In our quest for a unified team we have realized seven key strategies that will fortify and elevate your marriage team.
Keys that will fortify and elevate your marriage team
1. Make God’s vision for marriage the focal point.
2. Sacrifice individual accomplishment for team victory.
3. Understand your role and responsibilities in marriage.
4. Set specific goals to achieve together.
5. Know the strengths / weaknesses of your spouse.
6. Invest in your spouse.
7. Put your marriage vision into action.
Question: How has working as a team impacted your marriage? We’d love to hear your thoughts in Comments below.
About Author: Bernard Haynes writes on vision and leadership empowerment at Lead to Impact. You can also purchase his new book Vision Impact! by clicking here. You can also connect with him on Twitter and Facebook.