So glad to connect Chinyere! Oh no, I am sorry if it came across that way. You definitely can learn to connect on an emotional, mental, spiritual, social level BEFORE marriage. That’s why we date and court so we can lay those important foundations. We need that discovery process and we need to put down some roots! However, you can’t fully appreciate the depths of those connections until you get married. Sometime put it this way, you can learn all the swimming tips but eventually you have to jump into a pool. In other words, in marriage we get the opportunity to put all those things we learned pre-marriage into practice. And because marriage reveals more of who we are, it means there are depths we haven’t explored yet..not because there’s anything wrong with us. But because we weren’t doing life together yet and getting exposed in new ways. But yes yes, building those crucial foundations now will pay off in a big way down the road! Hope that clarifies a few things!