“In order to get from what was to what will be, you must go through what is.” – Unknown
We all know that personal growth and success is not an overnight event.
It is not “luck” either.
It is a deliberate process.
We also know that 90% of goal achievement is just sheer persistence, a mental toughness, where you just keep at it until you get results.
Perseverance is what holds everything together. Without it, the success journey would be impossible.
Nonetheless, when we map out our path we rarely add margin for “wait”. We prepare well and do our part but do not consider how unforeseen circumstances (some of us call that life) play into our journey.
Yet when it comes to success and goal achievement, some things will get done when they get done. Not a minute earlier.
It is like a seed that has been put in the ground.
If you are like me, you’d like to have a bumper harvest tomorrow. But once that seed hits the ground, it’s sole goal is to successfully cut through the soil on its way out. You cannot hurry the process.
So how does one grow the seed to harvest? How does one water the waiting seasons? How can we learn to wait, and wait well?
Here are 4 truths that have worked well in my own life.
In times of waiting, you need to,
1. Understand that waiting is part of life.
Waiting is not abnormal or unusual. The earth itself is made up of seasons.
You can do what needs to be done, but having done all that you can, it is crucial to learn the art of waiting well.
You do not have to keep up with the Joneses. We all have a unique race cut out for us. (Life signatures has an awesome take on this by the way, in a post titled You are a Sandwich!). So it is crucial that you stick to your lane.
Your lane is where you unlearn unhealthy competitiveness and re-learn patience.
2. Watch your mind and words
Just like you cannot live on junk food, sit on a couch the whole day and miraculously develop a toned strong body, you cannot feed your mind junk and expect to have a toned healthy life (success).
Seasons of waiting tend to demand the highest focus and discipline. They call for a resilience, a tenacity that can only be cultivated in hardship.
Watch what you allow through your five sense. Words are powerful, they convey pictures, feelings and emotions to the mind. What you allow to linger in your mind will eventually become an action. What you continually act on becomes a habit. And habits have a way of forming your destiny.
3. Watch your environment, especially friends
The age old saying is true “Bad character corrupts good morals”
You really are the average of your five friends – Jim Rohn
Don’t kid yourself – you are not strong enough to stand against an onslaught of easy-cruisers – people who prefer the easy or convenient and incite you towards the same.
Instead cultivate relationships with people who will keep you grounded and encouraged, people who will not allow you to chicken out of your goals.
4. Breath; don’t only focus on what ain’t working.
Your greatest infusion of strength might come from other areas of your life that are working.
Your energy boost and refreshment can come from something as simple as watching a sunset – reveling in the fact that you are alive and have all senses intact to enjoy enjoy life.
It can come from spending time with your spouse/kids/family and enjoying that blessing and fulfillment which comes from such relationships.
It can come from making a phone-call to a happy and satisfied client, getting that positive feedback.
Point is, look for something else which is working in your life and gain strength from it.
My personal development is my responsibility. God will not develop me for me – Johnny Umukoro
Question; how are you waiting?