I’ve never met a single woman who loves God who didn’t aspire to honor God with her body, mind, and emotions before marriage.
But I’ve met many who yearned to wait well, but struggled to hit the mark.
When it comes to waiting well for marriage, typically, the problem is not in wanting to, it’s in getting around to do it. Like how do you actually do life?
There’s plenty to do with yourself between now and marriage.
Especially because who you are is what you bring to the marriage. Also, marriage is not the goal of life, Jesus is.
In learning to wait well, I discovered that I had to address these other spheres of my existence. Namely my physical, emotional and mental domains.
I am a spiritual creature living in a physical world and to thrive; I have to learn how to do business here.
If you are going to honor God, you cannot over-spiritualize life. “I love Jesus, and He takes care of me, I don’t need to worry about a thing.” He surely does, of course.
But it’s a partnership. One that involves your listening and obeying. Like when He says, “stop hanging out at his house alone because you are constantly tempted to have sex” or “switch off the TV and meet a girlfriend for coffee,” you listen.
The following two things made a big difference in my wait for marriage.
1. I kept myself busy and accountable
I had a life – a job, friends, I was deeply engaged in church, I was a leader. Marriage was not all I was living for; I was living for Jesus.
Plus I had mentors and a hoard of girlfriends who loved me. These people could call me out like they were getting paid to do it.
2. I used common sense (practical sense)
It’s not the most popular thing nowadays, dating with a purpose. But it served me well.
I was careful about my environment – what I watched, listened to, who I hang out with because I had been silly enough times to understand the depths to which my external environment shaped my private one.
I have a new video up on YouTube, fleshing out these two points and encouraging your walk with God! Come on over and take a look! (Click here to watch the video on YouTube if the video is not displaying below)
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And if you are engaged to be married, make sure to check out my new book The Wedding Nigh: Embracing Sexual Intimacy as a New Bride for practical tips and ideas on how to become sexually confident in marriage. Click here for more information.