My brother went back home last week after visiting with us for two months.
One of the things that amazed him during his stay here in the US was how people hold doors for the person behind them.
We don’t do it that way in Kenya…mostly because doors to many public places like stores and restaurants are already wide open! 🙂
But the door-opening experience was a pleasant and enjoyable surprise and he quickly became a door-holder himself.
As I reflected on my brothers experience, I thought about how God opens doors for us. (He is a Gentleman!). I had a mental picture of our great God holding a door open as I approached, inviting me to enter in.
Right now I have a list of things on my plate and every now and then, I engage “fight mode”. The thing about being on soldier-mode is that you feel the burden and hardship more than anything else. Peace and joy or contentment can take flight. I find myself working on my goals as if everything depended on me…if I mess up, I’ve messed up and there’s no hope left!
If I don’t fix somebody’s situation, they’ll fail..and it will be my fault because I did not spend enough time thinking and praying and researching resources to help them.
If one of the orphan kids needs tuition fees, it’s our responsibility first. Not having the resources is failure.
If my husband is going through something and I am unable to help, then I am failing him as a wife. If this ministry needs more attention than I can humanly or wifely give, then I am falling short as a minister.
Does it really depend on you?
Can you identify? Maybe not with my situations and thinking but something else?
Do you sometimes feel and act as if it ALL depends on you? Like you are the only person who can fix a particular situation and if you don’t (or can’t) fix it, well, it’s all downhill and it’s all your fault?
As women it’s in our DNA to fix and nurture and take care of stuff. When things don’t get done well, we have this knack for finding and hogging all the fallout and guilt. Did we do enough? Is his rough day at work a result of my not fixing him breakfast and packing his lunch?
I loved the reminder from God that He is the door opener! That means it doesn’t all depend on me. God holds the world in His hands. He did not design me to carry the world on my shoulders. It’s His job to take care of things.
He knows His stuff and He knows where I need to go. He opens the right doors. And keeps the wrong ones shut!
How can I respond better?
There’s this habit and I think it’s awful… women feeling insulted because a man opened a door for them. Some women will stand there and debate with the gentleman, insisting he goes in first.
I think we can get into similar battles with God. We don’t like the door He’s holding open, so we stall and belly-ache. We think we know better. We stand there eyeing the other unopened door, hoping He’ll change his mind and lead us where we want.
But Prophet Jeremiah wrote, “But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. (17: 7)
God knows better than we do. He knows best! If anyone’s changing, it’s us, not Him.
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God is at work behind the scenes.
He’s working out situations which are beyond you.
Certainly we have a role to play. We have to intentionally engage and do our part, like putting one leg in front of the other. But we must do so based on what Christ has already accomplished for us. We approach life like God is God and we are His kids and He loves to take good care of His own.
He has called us to a life of peace and joyful partnership, not striving and stress.
But peace comes once I understand that God is in control.
Questions to ask yourself
- Do you believe that God is your door-opener? That He goes before you and makes your way plain? (John 10:2-4)
- Do you believe He knows best, that His “no” is better than the yes you are crying for? (Isaiah 55:8-9)
- Will you go through the door He’s holding open, even if the way seems narrow and the path different than expected?
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Jeremiah 17: 5-8
This is what the Lord says: “Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who draws strength from mere flesh and whose heart turns away from the Lord. That person will be like a bush in the wastelands; they will not see prosperity when it comes. They will dwell in the parched places of the desert, in a salt land where no one lives. “But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.”
I pray you have a great week ahead and that you walk with God and enter His rest.
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