From Ngina – Today am honored to host Joseph Iregbu as a guest blogger. More about Joseph at the bottom of the post.
In the past couple of weeks, I have seen four young leaders I’ve mentored and coached for years enter into courtship.
I’m very excited for them. I’ve watched them grow spiritually and mentally, particularly one, from a somewhat timid girl to a courageous woman.
Their decision to start a journey of a lifetime is laudable. OK, I know they’ve only started courting so maybe I shouldn’t get overly carried away.
But I have high hopes for them. I’m confident they will do well.
Commitment is a word many fear, not because they hate to but rather are afraid of failing in the process.
Take my four friends for example. Popping the question, “Will you marry me?” was a big deal. It took courage. The ladies involved could have said no. But the possibility of rejection did not deter them.
True love is indeed audacious.
Marriage Is Spelled C-o-m-m-i-t-m-e-n-t
Jeff Goins, in his book Wrecked, talks about how our adolescent culture continues to encourage more adventures and less commitment.
There’s place for both.
But sadly, the adventurous tendency remains an increasing trend in marriages across many cultures today. Some boast, “You can quit when you’re fed up”.
I recently read on Twitter: Marriage is spelled c-o-m-m-i-t-m-e-n-t. After 3 years, I can confirm that’s true.
“Will you marry me?” is a question God intends to wreck your life, for good. If you’re married, you will know this to be true. But, it must be followed up with commitment.
Fear Meets Grace
I remember when we began our journey; I wasn’t fully ready but God was. After 3 years, He’s still working and I’m still learning. Sometimes I’m slow, other times I get it.
But my fears have met His grace. Allow His grace settle your fears.
Marriage and God Moments
Marriage is full of God Moments:
- moments you discover you’re so inadequate and God is more than enough for both of you
- moments you realize you don’t deserve the wife or husband God has blessed you with
- moments you ask yourself, “How do you do it, Lord?”
- moments God blows you away
- moments of sheer joy and pain
- moments you learn to shut up
- moments you learn to speak up
- moments you yield and let the other have their wish
- moments you laugh and cry together
- moments you convince yourself “It’s OK to lose an argument”
- moments you have little and need to cut your excesses
- moments when doing right becomes more important than being right
- moments you must fight for the sanity of your marriage
- moments you must defend your partner despite his shortcomings
- moments you ask yourself, “Was this this man or woman I fell in love with?”
- moments the bills keep piling up and income is not looking like it would cover outgoings
- moments you decide saving for your children’s future is priority over your convenience
- moments everything seem to be going wrong
- moments it all starts to come together and everything begins makes sense again.
So knowing this much, “Will you still marry me?”
Marriage is not without pain.
It comes with many surprises. Commitment is not without a cost. But it’s a price worth paying for a life worth living.
Question – If you’re married, what advice would you give to those about to commit to starting the journey of their lives? If you are single, what thoughts/questions would you have? Please share in Comments.
(About Author: Joseph leads on purpose and is passionate about raising the next generation of leaders. He is the author of 3 books: SELAH – a 90 day day devotional, Even in the Well and a free eBook Lines of Impact. He lives in Germany with his wife and daughter. You can connect with him on Twitter @J_Iregbu, and his blog.
*Photo by micah_68 (creative commons)