I think we safeguard against applying principles too broadly when we put everything in the proper context. For example, Judas’ storyline is one of harm. Judas stole, lied, and sold out his friend and rabbi. But when the story is told, especially during Easter, it’s treated as a typical surface-level hurt (“normal conflict/growth opportunities”), the result of living in community with others. But it’s not. Judas’ story should not be presented as an illustration of forgiveness and reconciliation, as that was never the intention of its telling. Other stories in Scripture can illustrate genuine repentance and how that might look in community and relationship.”

Edited to add: I’m working on a resource to help people differentiate between healthy relationship systems from unsafe ones and I think it will be helpful here.