Hi Iva, I am so sorry about the season you are in. I can only speak from experience. Even in my season of pain and discomfort, I have still desired connection with my husband. My husband on the other hand cares about my well-being and abhors anything that aggravates my pain. I sense that’s where you are too. I would say trust your husband and his leading. It might look very uncomfortable for you but if he says he can take it, you might need to trust him. But make sure to talk A LOT – don’t withhold your thoughts. e.g let him know where you are at and why you hesitate – it’s not a rejection of him but that you feel like it causes more pain. Obviously, if it’s medically irresponsible to continue with the physical side for now, then you need to talk about it, maybe even have the doctor weigh in. Either way, you might want to consider other ways of connecting intimately that are less uncomfortable (click here to read more )

Ps. I left this comment (as opposed to an email) so as to help other women walking in your shoes