The Newlyweds

**Want to go from “I Do!” to “I Still Do!“… without the baggage of societal and religious conditioning?**

Get the clarity, discernment and relationships skills you need to co-create a healthy, mutual, connected marriage NOW.

You love your partner. Now it’s time to explore what true love really looks like.

The million dollar question…

Is it even possible to have a happy healthy marriage..without gender-specific roles, 24/7 sacrifice and the death of your personhood?

Good news: it’s absolutely possible!

Picture this

You step a year into the future, and…

You lean into calm and agency..no longer frazzled by the daily reality of life as a duo.

You’re no longer shaped and swayed by rigid, tired cultural and religious frameworks.

Your connection with your partner is deep, meaningful and joyful.

Now this obviously doesn’t happen QUITE so effortlessly, but…

Here’s how deeply connected marriages really work:

Mutuality: Happy couples share power. But in a society where unequal power dynamics are the norm, true equality can be difficult to wrap our minds around. The Newlyweds takes the “heavy lifting” off your plates, so you don’t miss the essential keys. You can just show up and connect the dots for your individual journey!.

Health: Sometimes, we believe that a healthy marriage is simply following what is commonly accepted or done by others. My book guides you through the essential elements needed for a healthy and deeply fulfilling relationship. It’s designed to foster a sense of enduring partnership so you can enjoy the journey!

Happiness: You deserve to be happy! But what if your religious or cultural backdrop says God had other plans? (Like “marriage is meant to make you holy, not happy.”) Every chapter is designed to show you the depth and richness of a healthy connection, that happiness is indeed part of the marriage design…and what to do when it’s not yours.

That’s right!

You can co-create a deeply connected marriage without…

Constantly second-guessing yourself
Giving up your personhood
Rehashing the same tired messages about marriage
Having to be exactly like everyone else around you
Feeling overwhelmed and confused around marriage problems vs individual issues
Expensive couple seminars and retreats to address regular marriage problems

Yep, you can finally take a deep breath.

It’s possible for your relationship to feel light, fun and healthy— without all the tired theories to set the scene. 😉

Ready to make deep connection your new normal?

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Here’s a sneak peek of what I cover inside the The Newlyweds:

Clarity for how a healthy mutual marriage dynamic actually looks like (no more second guessing!)
How to make sure “marriage is hard” thinking does not become your baseline.
A simple way to avoid chasing appearances (you deserve authenticity.)
A go-to process for addressing differing points of view.
The latest research on mutual, pleasurable, fun sex (because both spouses matter!)
The quick hack that turns “bleh” into sparks (hint, it involves your favorite things!)
How to be intentional with life and each other…without bursting your margins.
The biggest difference between conversations that fall flat and those that spark deep intimacy.
My personal setup for spouses to address unspoken expectations in marriage.
The four things healthy couples keep in mind when discussing or merging their finances.
Tips for healthy spirituality (because faith isn’t what makes us good.)
A list of resources to make it easy to find help if your spouse practices a wounding style of relating.
And much more.

INTRODUCING

THE NEWLYWEDS

Get my proven resource, follow the simple steps and enjoy your marriage without a ginormous newlywed learning curve.

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I’m Ngina Otiende – a wife, a marriage clarity coach, and a dedicated chai enthusiast who believes the best marriages feel warm and inviting…like a soothing cup of tea ; )

Since I navigated my own tendency toward hypervigilance and catastrophizing, I’ve gone from feeling anxious and disconnected to experiencing calm and deep connection with my husband.

And I just want more women to experience joy and connection with their spouse – without the years of unhealthy religious and societal conditioning that I experienced. That’s right! I’ve helped thousands of folks become self-confident and deepen their bond without surface-level fixes, exhausting beliefs or minimizing the simple joys of relating.

If you’re ready to leave the complicated marriage advice frontier behind, and still transform your relationship, grab The Newlyweds and start adding joy to your relationship.

Worried about not achieving your relationship dreams if you don’t have all the bells and whistles of a long to-be list?

You’re not alone! I remember feeling hesitant, wondering if my relationships could actually be simple and meaningful without pretzeling ourselves into the latest idea from doctor google, marriage mentors and Christian media.

But I finally realized: It’s not about bagging the best-presenting couple award; it’s about creating space for curiosity and genuine interest in each other. It’s about being honest with ourselves regarding our true nature and areas for growth, rather than conforming to societal expectations or the standards we impose on ourselves.

And the good news is…I wrote The Newlyweds to make this process easier for couples just starting out (and at any stage of their relationship.)

TESTIMONIALS

Thank you!

Thank you for your amazing wisdom regarding relationships!

Writing the things we need to hear

Thank you so much for writing the things we need to hear. I would not be where I am now without your words.

An inspiration to me

Your work has been an inspiration to me, and I’ve learned and grown from your willingness to share your struggles, considering the changes I need to make.

Got a question?

Does this only work for newlyweds or would it work for me if I’m older in marriage?

I wrote the book to help individuals understand what a healthy marriage dynamic looks like so they can be more discerning. Because so many come into marriage with unhelpful societal or religious conditioning, sometimes it takes a long time to figure out areas of possible change. If you’re interested in a deeply nuanced approach to marriage, The Newlyweds will help you explore health, mutuality, and happiness in marriage, no matter how long you’ve been married.

I’m single/divorced and not really interested in marriage. Is The Newlywed helpful?

The Newlyweds is for every person who read all the bad marriage books, heard all the bad teachings and now wants to learn how a healthy marriage actually looks like. If you want to explore what a healthy marriage dynamic looks like so you can better support your clarity or that of your family, friends, and community, The Newlywed will help you do that.

I’m newly dating. Will this still work for me?

Yes! One of the best times to explore healthy individuality and relating is before making a long-term commitment or getting married. That way you are more clear-eyed from the start.

I’m not super good at learning new things — will this work for me?

The Newlyweds is for anyone looking to understand themselves and build a deep, meaningful connection with their partner. It is simple, accessible, and down-to-earth. You are worth investing in.

I want a happy healthy marriage – Will this help me get there?

It takes two willing and engaged partners to co-create a healthy marriage. You will find support, validation, reassurance, and genuine help within the pages. If your relationship is challenging and you want to learn what a healthy marriage dynamic looks like so you can build confidence to take steps towards wholeness, The Newlyweds will affirm you in that direction.

Does The Newlyweds replace pre/post marital counseling?

This book offers a unique approach to marriage and can be a valuable addition to the efforts you’re already making.

Is The Newlyweds just for women?

Nope! While my primary audience is women, the principles shared apply to all, as maturity and health are not limited by gender. Here’s a fun tip: partners can read and work through the book together!

My marriage hurts. Should I still buy this?

The Newlyweds can help clarify what a healthy marriage looks like and what it does not look like. The book is not intended to provide ongoing support to spouses in an abusive marriage. Instead, it offers discernment, validation, reassurance, and guidance towards the truth.