The Newlyweds: Pursuing Mutuality, Health and Happiness

Want to go from “I Do!” to “I Still Do!“… without the baggage of societal and religious conditioning?

Get the clarity, discernment and relationships skills you need to co-create a healthy, mutual, connected marriage NOW.

You love your partner. Now it’s time to explore what true love really looks like.

The million dollar question…

Is it even possible to have a happy healthy marriage..without gender-specific roles, 24/7 sacrifice and the death of your personhood? 

Good news: it’s absolutely possible!

Picture this

You step a year into the future, and…

You lean into calm and agency..no longer frazzled by the daily reality of life as a duo. 

You’re no longer shaped and swayed by rigid, tired cultural and religious frameworks.

Your connection with your partner is deep, meaningful and joyful.

Now this obviously doesn’t happen QUITE so effortlessly, but…

Here’s how deeply connected marriages really work:

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Mutuality: Happy couples share power. But in a society where unequal power dynamics are the norm, true equality can be difficult to wrap our minds around. The Newlyweds takes the “heavy lifting” off your plates, so you don’t miss the essential keys. You can just show up and connect the dots for your individual journey!.

2

Health: Sometimes, we believe that a healthy marriage is simply following what is commonly accepted or done by others. My book guides you through the essential elements needed for a healthy and deeply fulfilling relationship. It’s designed to foster a sense of enduring partnership so you can enjoy the journey!

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Happiness: You deserve to be happy! But what if your religious or cultural backdrop says God had other plans? (Like “marriage is meant to make you holy, not happy.”) Every chapter is designed to show you the depth and richness of a healthy connection, that happiness is indeed part of the marriage design…and what to do when it’s not yours.

You can co-create a deeply connected marriage without…

  • Constantly second-guessing yourself
  • Giving up your personhood
  • Rehashing the same tired messages about marriage
  • Having to be exactly like everyone else around you
  • Feeling overwhelmed and confused around marriage problems vs individual issues
  • Expensive couple seminars and retreats to address regular marriage problems

It’s possible for your relationship to feel light, fun and healthy— without all the tired theories to set the scene. 😉 

Ready to make deep connection your new normal? 

THE NEWLYWEDS

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Here’s a sneak peek of what I cover inside the The Newlyweds:

  1. Clarity for how a healthy mutual marriage dynamic actually looks like (no more second guessing!)
  2. How to make sure “marriage is hard” thinking does not become your baseline.
  3. A simple way to avoid chasing appearances (you deserve authenticity.)
  4. A go-to process for addressing differing points of view.
  5. The latest research on mutual, pleasurable, fun sex (because both spouses matter!)
  6. The quick hack that turns “bleh” into sparks (hint, it involves your favorite things!)
  7. How to be intentional with life and each other…without bursting your margins.
  8. The biggest difference between conversations that fall flat and those that spark deep intimacy.
  9. My personal setup for spouses to address unspoken expectations in marriage.
  10. The four things healthy couples keep in mind when discussing or merging their finances.
  11. Tips for healthy spirituality (because faith isn’t what makes us good.)
  12. A list of resources to make it easy to find help if your spouse practices a wounding style of relating.
  13. And much more.

THE NEWLYWEDS

Get my proven resource, follow the simple steps and enjoy your marriage without a ginormous newlywed learning curve.

LOVED BY HUNDREDS AROUND THE WORLD.

Worried about not achieving your relationship dreams if you don’t have all the bells and whistles of a long to-be list?

You’re not alone! I remember feeling hesitant, wondering if my relationships could actually be simple and meaningful without pretzeling ourselves into the latest idea from doctor google, marriage mentors and Christian media.

But I finally realized: It’s not about bagging the best-presenting couple award; it’s about creating space for curiosity and genuine interest in each other. It’s about being honest with ourselves regarding our true nature and areas for growth, rather than conforming to societal expectations or the standards we impose on ourselves.

And the good news is…I wrote The Newlyweds to make this process easier for couples just starting out (and at any stage of their relationship.) 

TESTIMONIALS

Thank you!

Thank you for your amazing wisdom regarding relationships!

Writing the things we need to hear

Thank you so much for writing the things we need to hear. I would not be where I am now without your words.

An inspiration to me

Your work has been an inspiration to me, and I’ve learned and grown from your willingness to share your struggles, considering the changes I need to make.

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  • Key take-aways at the end of each chapter.
  • Easy to understand process to mutuality, health and happiness in marriage.
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*The first edition of The Newlyweds book was published several years ago under the title Blues to Bliss: Creating Your Happily Ever After in the Early Years, but as I developed a more nuanced understanding of marriage, I realized I had much more to say (and unsay.)