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My name is Ngina Otiende.
I help people build strong successful lives. I write, mentor & coach on intentional growth and relationships. I love a fabulous cup of green tea and a golden African sunrise.
I am so passionate about helping others grow that at one point in my life, I was overly attached. My ‘who‘ was all mixed up with my ‘do‘.
In 2008, God began to answer a pious desperate prayer,
“Please God, show me where I end and where You begin”
In a few short months, He kicked out some of the crutches that were holding me up – amongst them ‘manager’ and it’s associated perks and ‘leadership’ with it’s clout.
Then years of skillful single living were made redundant – I walked down the aisle and married the life of my love. Exit Independent single existence, hello cleaving.
That same year, I left my employer of seven years – cold-turkey – with little plans and big dream.
A few months later, my women’s mentor group got itself a new leader. ‘Empty nest’ heart nightmares set in.
I started a new mentoring relationship and volunteering. I also started a business.
Oh I’d lost my father, my biggest prop, a few months before these crutches began to fall out.
(In mid 2011, God kicked out yet another crutch – we (my husband and I ) left our country of birth and moved 8,000 miles across the globe. Our detailed story here )
Holding up my weight.
I guess I was supposed to hold up my own weight when these props popped out but instead, my last-born responsibility-phobic nature kicked in.
I got discouraged.
And blamed, resisted, cried, wallowed in self-pity, grieved, clawed, just about fell down and died.
But mercifully and eventually, my spectacular melt-downs and leaky messes began to feel old.
I needed to get my life together. One step at a time.
As I did, I began to appreciate the incredible power of taking personal responsibility for my own life.
I am responsible for me and my success. I cannot force-feed others success. The same way God cannot force-feed me success.
Of course, I say this from hindsight because it was not (still isn’t) a neat process. Then it was more like stumbling through a tunnel and falling out on the other end, dazed and unsure on how I got out. The only thing I remember is putting one foot in front of the other.
I talk about intentional growth and relationships because I have experienced the power and freedom, through God, that comes from taking charge of my life and growth.
I believe that to find success in any area of life, we must be intentional. Success doesn’t come from ‘luck’, ‘fate’ or genes. With God, we have the power to design our future.
This blog is for you if you are interested in intentional growth, success and pursuing God-given purpose and dreams.
I specifically, though not exclusively, write about personal growth and relationships (primarily marriage) and typically post 1-2 times a week.
I am married to my hero and we live in Maryland.
Besides personal experiences, what I offer in this blog comes from a decade of working with small groups as a leader and mentor.
I have over seven years working experience in real estate sector and management.
I founded two successful businesses – a clothes and jewelry outlet and a consulting and training firm.
I am a Purpose Trainer.
Again, thank you so much for visiting my site.
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Or you can begin your journey right here by checking out these popular posts
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Our relocation story
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