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Hi friend and welcome!
I’m Ngina (pronounced NGAY-nuh, with a hard “g”) and I am a professional marriage coach and writer.
I started this site in 2011, initially blogging about personal growth and relationships. Later, I narrowed my focus to marriage.
What was once a part time commitment has turned into dedicated pursuit that helps thousands around the world. I am thrilled you are here.
My husband and I are originally from Kenya but now live in the United States. You can read more by visiting my bio page here.
Why Intentional Today?
Intentional Today is a site dedicated to helping individuals grow in clarity so they can address marriage and partner problems through articles, books and courses, and coaching.
I started Intentional Today because I was once the new bride in love and in turmoil. I didn’t know those two words can go together and I was devastated.
My husband and I had a lot of issues: from communication breakdowns to financial problems, immaturity, pride and unhealthy responses to (non-toxic) marriage problems.
A healthy relationship takes two spouses and eventually, my husband and I worked to get healthy, through accountability, boundaries and personal responsibility. The daily intentionality of our journey inspired the name.
2022: The Shift
Back when my marriage was a bustling construction zone, I learned to focus on the one person I could control. Myself. My husband needed to grow too but I discovered I couldn’t force him. So I learned to hold my space and keep my spouse accountable.
And because accountability, boundaries, and personal growth worked for our relationship, for years, my approach was to help wives in those areas too.
What I didn’t realize was that women married to chronically problematic men would read my words and double down, working on themselves as if they were the problem.
And so in 2022, I made a shift which I outline in this blog post Why I’ve Deleted My Books, Courses, and Over 200 Blog Posts.
I am pro-HEALTHY-marriage, not just pro-marriage.
And in this site, we talk about healthy marriages and call out unhealthy relationship dynamics. We discuss bad teachings that elevate marriage above God’s children and how we can do better.
My Books and Services
I’ve written some books.
Courage: Reflections and Liberation for the Hurting Soul
Have you been told that the strength of a woman is in how well she adapts to a one-sided marriage? Are you tired of religious refrains being used to justify your hurting reality? Check out Courage: Reflections and Liberation for Hurting Soul: my hope is that this book will provide women with language to tend to their hurt, remind us we deserve dignity and respect and our agency and autonomy are God-given and worth protecting. Buy on Amazon I PDF
The Newlyweds: Pursuing Mutuality, Health, and Happiness in Marriage
Get the clarity, discernment and relationships skills you need to co-create a healthy, mutual, connected marriage…without gender-specific roles, 24/7 sacrifice and the death of your personhood. Get instant access to key take-aways at the end of each chapter, easy to understand process to mutuality, health and happiness in marriage and teaching with instructions, examples, evidence and pro tips. Buy on Amazon Now
Marriage Coaching
Get 1:1 support as you navigate marriage and individual problems.
Are you feeling overwhelmed in marriage? Drifting because of unresolved conflict? “Going with the flow” but inside you’re unhappy and wishing for things to be different? Unable to find the words or explain to your spouse what you really want? Feeling unheard? Let me help you.
Free Resources for You
I have several free downloadable resources for your marriage, including the eBook 16 Things You Won’t Find in Healthy Marriage. Click here to get access to this eBook plus my library of marriage resources! Let’s connect on Facebook and Instagram for daily inspiration.
Contact me
Find out how to stay in touch on my Contact page.
Helpful Websites and Pages For Toxic, Abusive or Difficult Marriages
If you suspect your spouse is toxic, abusive or chronically problematic, please talk to a licensed counselor who is trained in relationship abuse and trauma. Some resources and websites to check out.
- WildernesstoWILD with Sarah McDugal
- Flying Free with Natalie Hoffman
- Abi Akinola
- Life Saving Divorce with Gretchen Baskerville
- Heather Elizabeth – Held & Healed
- Betrayal Trauma Recovery
- Bare Marriage with Sheila Gregoire
- Hope For Hurting Wives with MaryEllen Bream
- Ola Mide – When Marriage Hurts
- If you’re in danger, call an emergency hotline in your country. Canada: 800.799.SAFE (7233). United States: 1-800-621-HOPE (4673). United Kingdom: 08 08 16 89 111. Australia: 1800 015 188. New Zealand: 0800 456 450. Kenya: 0-800-720-072. Nigeria: 0800 033 3333. South Africa: 0800 428 428. United States: Suicide and Crisis Lifeline 988