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What type of “teachings” keep women stuck in bad marriages? I dare to say the ones with “virtue” written all over them. The ones with an appearance of goodness. The biggest offenders are the ones allowing the majority to continue feeling good about themselves and their belief systems. They leave everyone feeling communal and happy,…
Periodically, I get told I’m pessimistic about marriage, or I’m overly critical of husbands, or I’m setting unrealistic marriage standards. All that because I approach marriage teaching through the lens of safety and health. But I’m not the only one: Everyone I know who prioritizes safety and health in relationships has been accused of not…
Last week on Instagram, I had a couple of people argue against Christians divorcing for abuse reasons. I engaged with one Commenter in particular but later changed my mind and deleted the thread as it became clear the winding discourse was not helpful, especially for readers in coercive/violent marriages. Victims and survivors already receive enough…
Someone asked “how do you convince a loved one, through Scripture, that getting away from your abuser was the right thing to do?” Quick answer. You don’t. You don’t need to convince anyone. But let’s dig deeper. Someone who doesn’t see abuse or the need for safety for the victim will not be convinced by…
“God does not force people to change” is an unsettling thought for some. Whenever I talk about how God does not force people to change or post something around that point on social media, while most people get it, others do not. I have written about this before, and you can check it out: Why…
Is she leaving a healthy relationship? I do what I do because the thought of more women continuing to believe they are having routine marriage problems when they are not is crushing to me. My one goal is to offer clarity to that individual who believes her hard is a typical day of marriage and to support…